I don't get it, after 4 years, arguing over things that aren't even real. Assumptions. I don't get it. Does this mean he's the one doing what he assumes I am? I'm clueless. He's tripping on his own lies. I'm freaking on them. Being the significant other of a compulsive liar is very hard. I will not let him bring ME down for his made up fanasies. I'm NOT a cheat, I'm NOT the liar, and he's got it good whether he wants to believe it or not. I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, I don't go to bars, I am a stay at home mom, I have NO friends cause of HIM (gets jealous if I go visti them), and I was happy to just spend his free time with him...perhaps he's bored of me. Needs to make stuff up to get a rise outta me? we get a long so well...why start this false crazy nonsense? I feel betrayed...I've been so faithful and true. I'm hurt. His ex stole his family from us both. To get them back for himself, he'll have to make me the "bad guy" so he can befriend his exwife again. I'm sickened. Why now?
2007-01-22 08:23:21 · 12 answers · asked by luv2bake 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes in a relationship we either grow together or grow apart. The key is to make sure you are making your decisions when rational and not in an emotional state.
2007-01-22 08:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh Girl. It sounds like your man is either scared and insecure of something that might happen or he is doing something bad perhaps. I don't know what kind of man he is but if you say he's a compulsive liar, then he's probably lying about things with you. You sound perfect. Don't let a liar bring you down and turn you into someone you're not. If you go home every night and take care of him and love him, then what's his problem!?!?! I love going home to my man every night. The highlight of my day is cooking dinner and sitting next to him, talking, watching TV, and just being together. However, we do have problems....who doesn't right? But we do have trust problems. I think we both want to trust each other so badly that it hurts. It hurts like he!! b/c I want him to trust me and I think it goes the same with him. Maybe your man is scared to trust because he has it so good, but tell him that he's gotta let that wall down sometime or he's never gonna be happy!
2007-01-22 08:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i think he didn't know what to tell you the right way then saying all those things. and so he want to befriend his exwife? oh my gosh... he need to grow up... You have done nothing wrong, you can leave him right now and good thing you don't have kids from him.. because you are a woman that truly in love iwth. and I think that he in love with his exwife again.
I know for a fact that I love my wife now for 9 years and better than my exwife for 8 month married. so to be honest if he can't be man enough to tell you how he feels then i guess you need to pack up and leave. You really don't need this crap like that and you are right why now??? does his exwife making more money than you do and Live better life than you do???
You know I never tell my wife not to go see her friend or family. I always let my wife do what ever she want to do and she let me do the same thing. It all about trust and caring and support and love and we have 2 kids and 3rd due in march and you know what my ex wife thank god we don't have kids becasue before it was wonderful girlfriend and boyfriend but when we got married things change and we fight for little stupid thing and thank god for not having sex with her not have no babies. Or I be end up see her all my life becasue of my kids. but lucky only my second wife better and she very fathful to me and caring and gave me 2 beauitful kids and 3rd coming soon and that so much I ever asked for my wife.
I hope this help... you not the bad guy he is and you done nothing wrong. you can walk out proud and said He mess up and Not me. and remember never say anything bad things about him... that way you still looking good than he does. smling.
2007-01-22 08:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite it ought to take position yet undergo in concepts why you all broke up interior the first position and be prepared for an similar issues to upward thrust up back in spite of everything, whats replaced because the purely appropriate time? You play the honesty card ask her how she'd experience about it ask her if she thinks it will be feasible to re-ignite she would have distinct concepts from the relationship than you so have a communicate with her and ask her outright.
2016-10-15 23:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's insecure about something and you could be right, he's up to something and his conscious is eating him alive! He could be so paranoid that you're up to no good that it's all he can do is accuse you. If he doesn't have a reason for his behavior then he's hiding something from you,dear. Just stand back and give him some space and he'll get himself caught.
2007-01-22 08:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, love yourself first!
If it doesn't feel good it's not good for you! I'm not saying leave him, but if after a long talk of explaining exactly what you typed here, his actions don't change, then you have to do what's best for you.
After all, you don't want to be with a compulsive liar anyway!
2007-01-22 08:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan's Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most couples start having problems eventually. The more time you spend with someone the more obvious their flaws become, and the ones you love tick you off the most. There is counseling for couples to deal with this stuff...you should look into it, but unfortunately I dont' have a recommendation (yet...)
2007-01-22 08:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not married, why not get out and cut your loses. You don't need help to do bad and that seems all you have in this relationship now. Apparently, he wants out of the "relationship" anyway. Time to cut and run.
2007-01-22 08:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely maybe he still loves his x wife and wants to get back with her. It seems like he wants you to get mad and leave don't let him stress you out. Good luck and god bless.
2007-01-22 08:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how in the world would we know the answer to that one...only he does...and will he be honest with you if you ask him? seems to me "you" have to make up your mind what you want to do about the situation and if this is how you want to live your life and what you want your children to grow up watching....gl
be cool
2007-01-22 08:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋