My son-in-law of 6 yrs is an arrogant, self-centered person who I don't care for and neither does most of the members of my family. He looks down at us and has never cared for us either. I'm sure he would love it if we just all disappeared and he had my daughter to himself. It's difficult when we have family get togethers because I'm always tense and can't enjoy myself when he's around. I can't say anything negative about him to my daughter because I don't want to loose her and my grandchildren because she accepts his ways and usually blames the problems on me. We live in the same town, 2 miles apart. I've tried my best to keep the peace but it's not working. Anybody in a similar situation or was in one that found an answer to make it better?? I could care less if I never see him again but I don't want to loose my daughter and grandchildren.
2007-01-22 08:23:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
communicate with son in-law, and make a resolution to solve the problem. in life you don't always have to like a person. he was not your choice but your daughters learn to accept her decisions.
I have chosen to love and accept both my daughters husbands.
god forbid that I should try to live my kids life.
don't get me wrong, if I don't like certain behavior, I voice my opinion. not one to hold my tongue. but far better to lay it on the table and clear it up, right now. then to stew over it for years.
2007-01-22 08:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do mean by "it's not working?"
I'd accept my responsibility for my part in the issues, because it takes two to tangle. I'd learn to be more civil and kind to him, and concentrate on my relationship more with my daughter and grandchildren. You're way too invested emotionally if you can't relax around him. And the fact that you can't find one positive about him speaks volumes about YOU, not him.
2007-01-26 01:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to mind your own business and be civil. I personally do not like my mother in law very much-I think she is way to involved in our lives and if she would mind her own business her life as well as ours would be alot less stressful. Your son in law probably doesn't like you either but tolerates you for the sake of your daughter and the children-do the same or stay away from them. Have you heard the term Monster in Law?
2007-01-22 08:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by Erin B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he behaves like a spoiled little brat treat him like one
2007-01-22 08:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if dad in laws and mother in laws would stay out of thier son and daughters marrige and quit butting in they wouldn't be many divorces i known thats what caused my first divorce mother in law couldn't do nothing to please her maybe your son in law feel's like you do
2007-01-22 08:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PUT HIM IN A CANON AND SEND HIM TO THE MOON
2007-01-22 08:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by dce1dg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punch HIM in the nuts
or:
Just talk to him......that might work
2007-01-22 08:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by Spada 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋