My gf was at a party the other night and she called me up the next day crying but wouldn't tell me what was wrong. I went over to her fathers house and she looked a mess. After a couple of hours she finally told me she was raped by some ***hole at the party. I am going crazy! I'm about to go over there and rip that guys head off. What can I do other than kill him. I think I'm about to explode. He knew I wasn't at the party so he must have thought it was a perfect chance. I have seen him eyeing her before. What can I do to make sure he doesn't go after her again? Is it possible he did damge to the baby?
2007-01-22 08:22:56 · 26 answers · asked by Ethan 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm feeling crazy guilty. She seems to be pulling away from me. Do you think she blames me.
2007-01-22 08:32:39 · update #1
Well I take it she was pregnant before the party. Most likely he did no damage to the baby unless hi hit her in her stomach or pushed her down. Its not your fault and shes not going to blame you. Its going to take some time for her to get over this. Talk to her, see if shes willing to go to the hosiptal and report it. That way the doctors and examine her and make sure the baby is fine, and that shes fine. Just remember if she pushes you away for the next few weeks, its normal. Just be understanding and be by her side if she needs you. Also the police will only do something if your gf wants to make a report. Meaning if you call the police and she does not want to press charges, or file a report they cant do anything. Its normal for people who have been raped to not want to call the police. Dont force it on her, you will only make matters worse.
2007-01-22 09:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you ring the police immediately and put his **** in jail, she is pulling away because its difficult for her, she does not blame you most women who have been raped it is really confusing as to what is going on right now and she probably feels maybe you will feel like she is tarnished by someone else and not want her.
Just be there for her make sure shell get through it ok, get that guy thrown into prison right now this is very serious that he is still walking around freely and trust me if you want his balls rip off more than just that will happen to him while in jail.
As for the baby, was she pregnant before hand or did this **** get her pregnant? if she was pregnant before hand if he abused her badly yes maybe there is some damage to the baby you should get it checked out but she should go to a hospital anyway.
Please call the police and make sure she knows you still love you no matter what if she pushes you away don't leave no matter what stick it through and fight for her. She really needs you
2007-01-22 08:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a box of tissues and spend a heck of a lot of time talking to your girlfriend and giving her a shoulder. You really need to call the police right away. Also get her to a doctor as soon as possible so she can be checked over thoroughly. Sensible me: getting yourself locked up for grievious bodily harm would be a Bad Thing. Normal me: I'd take comfort in knowing my boyfriend had smashed the guilty party to a bleeding agonised pulp if I was ever raped. Just check with your girlfriend how she'd feel about you going out with the intention of "having a word" with the guy before you do anything. Some girls are silly about that kind of thing.
2007-01-22 08:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your girlfriend is already pregnant with your child? Get her to the ER now to check her out, she needs an exam to make sure she is okay physically as well as the baby. Then you need to talk to her about filing a police report. If that guy raped her, he needs to go to jail before he does it again. Then let her have her feelings. She will be an emotional wreck for a while. Perhaps she can see a counselor. Good Luck and get her to a doctor, even thought its been a while!
2007-01-22 08:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by medicpaige 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. thats really sad..
I would have her go to the doctors and check if the babies okay, and definetly report the rapist to the police, that was veryy wrong. Also you should probably try to convince her to stay away from wherever he is/ hangs out because chances are, if he finds out that you tried to report him he may try to do it again, but this time it can end up worse.. You need some guy to talk to that you can trust, because you probably have alot of mixed up feelings... You shouldnt ask people on here about this stuff because we dont know the whole situation- if u know what i mean..
Well good Luck anyways =]
2007-01-22 11:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why is she Partying in the first place i mean shes pregnant and there is a bunch of weirdos out there i mean not that its bad to party its just when your Pregnant you need to calm down on stuff like that but any who why hasn't anyone called the Police and she needs to go to the Doctors because what if that guy has a STD or even Aids or HIV now that can harm the baby but other than that dont kick his butt is not going to solve anything because what is done is done and remember god dont like UGLY and God dont like Pretty in other words what cmes around goes around ok and yes I know that ill be impossible for you to not do but just have him put away then when he comes out have some one else do your dirty but really its just going to be like a water fall where it keeps going and going in till someone really gets hurt but good luck to you and hop fully you both do the right thing and best wish and good luck hope you baby is fine as long as he didn't kick her sock her or push her in the stomach or to make her fall then most likely all is well. :)
2007-01-22 10:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so she was already pregnant when she was raped?
Well, the first thing that you can do is to turn him in to the police! You know who he is, so you HAVE to take action. Even if you can't prove it, he'll still have a bad mark on his record so that if he ever is accused of sexual harrassment later on in like, they will be more likely to convict him.
Also, make sure to comfort your girlfriend. You need to be the man that she needs. The rape might very well have harmed the baby, depending on how rough the rapist was. But don't worry her with that...just be the one to comfort her. And I know that it's hard for you and you probably feel like it's your fault that she wasn't protected from harm.
2007-01-22 08:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, report it to the police.
He probably did not damage the baby, it is best to see a doctor to check out if he had anything he could have passed on t oyour girlfriend.
Don't you go after the person you assume did it. You may be completely wrong. Just be there for your girlfriend.
2007-01-22 10:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Popsicle_1989 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concerntrate on your girlfriend not that low life.
Try not to add anymore stress on an already stressed out gf.
I doubt very much the baby will not be harmed. Going after this guy will put more stress on mother (and baby).
Please take her to the police and the doctor. Be with her and support her.
2007-01-22 08:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by bambam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm....go to the police!!!!!! Have his a%@ arrested and put in jail. That will keep him away. As far as hurting the baby, I don't think so but possibly from an STD. Your GF should be cheked out asap. Sorry to hear about this terrible situation.
2007-01-22 08:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋