just snuggled up to my man he said he wasnt in the mood for cuddles.we ent humped 4 two weeeks...is he depressed/mental or what?
2007-01-22 08:04:56 · 33 answers · asked by snuffylover4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he has been off work for a good few weeks now and sleeps till about 4pm evary day lately.plus takes weed and snort.
2007-01-22 08:22:20 · update #1
been together 3 years and this is the first time its been like this.i dont understand.i know he had a secret phone(and accused me of robbing it until he found it a few days later,yet always rifles thru mine when I am asleep)and have looked in the computer history that shows womens pictures under "my space".
2007-01-22 08:30:30 · update #2
i keep threatening to leave him but he begs e to stay cos he says he loves me
2007-01-22 08:39:14 · update #3
Maybe he's just stressed out. Two weeks isn't that long and guys don't like to cuddle as much as we do.
The best thing to do is talk to him about what's going on. Let him know that it's upsetting you and making you worry about him. He's probably got alot going on.
2007-01-22 08:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things..1. He may not be the affectionate/snuggly type to begin with, or 2. He may not like/love you enough to snuggle with you.
Are you smothering him? If he doesn't want to have sex with you, he may not be attracted to you, or is losing interest. In the rare case that he does have intimacy issues, smothering him with hugs will only push him away..
I would leave him be and try to figure out what he likes in a girl. What turns him on? If it is not you, good luck in trying to get him to change. You may try to wear something sexy, but that might only make him feel more uncomfortable.
Above all, the fact that he smokes weed and snorts coke means that he is more concerned with his own feelings than anyone elses, so don't expect him to become caring about anyone.
2007-01-22 08:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by kushman13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup - he is depressed. He needs a job and to cut out the weed. But you can't nag, you can only ask. And much as I hate to say this, he really needs you right now. He is obviously in a panic in case you are seeing someone else and thinks he deserves it as he hates himself. The women on his site are to make you jealous. If you are jealous, you still care and it boosts his fragile ego. So. What can you do. Fraid you have to be the booster of self-esteem and tell him he is wonderful etc. Hide his drugs. And ask him to help you with things - even if you can do it yourself. Then tell him he is your hero blah, blah. It might take a while but it works. If poss he should really see a GP for some happy pills but men rarely do that. Also, don't flash your cash too much as it castrates the male. Erm...there's loads more things we do that crush their egos - you will just have to think about it before you do it. Good luck.
2007-01-22 09:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's depressed if he's not at work and sleeping til 4pm, the drugs will only make that worse. Why do you keep threatening to leave him? Are there other problems?
2007-01-22 10:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the weed and the snort will not help with the workings of the male equipment and he knows it... so he will be trying to stall you.... Talk to him... be open and state your concerns and if no joy...get yourself out and about ... then he may SIT UP and pay attention to who he is about to lose... life is too short! good luck!!
2007-01-22 08:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Susie Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there's something on his mind and he just doesn't want to tell you right now. He could be showing signs of depression because, lack of sex or too much is a symptom. Just try not to push it on him. Could he be seeing someone else? I hope not but, it should be considered.
2007-01-22 08:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new man? Current one sounds like a waste of space.
2007-01-22 08:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by dorothy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but there are alot of men that are this away and i dont know why. I know mine is saying the same about me i dont like to snuggle all the time no more that we have a baby.
2007-01-22 08:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by megryanmc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not every man will want to cuddle but you can always compromise. If it bothers you that much then ask him to cuddle with you twice a week or once a week instead of all the time.
2007-01-22 19:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He his going through a bad patch.Sex is the last thing on your mind especially with losing his job.Try to be patient.Good Luck
2007-01-26 00:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋