he is verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive and says its your fault he is that way.
2007-01-22 07:46:27 · 32 answers · asked by chrissygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thats your choice but let me tell you i have been there and the abuse will only get worse the longer you let him stay in control
2007-01-22 07:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by lilshorty5366 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you should not stay with a man like this, because he is a very dangerous type. He's controlling, and abusive. Anyone who is trying to take care of a grown woman, is controlling. You can take care of yourself, that was your first mistake, never let someone else(besides your parents and after a certain age, not even them)have control over your life financially. Once they have that it's only a matter of time before they want you to move in, then they want to know what you're doing and where you're going all the time. Get out, now! If you stay with him, he's going to end up killing you. Situations like this don't get better, so if you're waiting for that "change" or that "promise" than you're wasting your time. You need to save yourself, before any children come into the situation and you two are bound together for life. Leave while you still can babe. It's not your fault he's abusive, he's just a lunatic. It's his own fault and his parent's fault. Somewhere down the line someone messed up. Just get away from him and go and clear your head for a few days. Good luck babe with whatever you decide, if you ever need to talk I'm here sweetie.
2007-01-22 07:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I know he may give you the things you want and need and do everything to take care of you, every women will love a man like that, but in a relationship if he doesn't respect you than I don't think the relationship can go far. If he is a verbally and physically abusive towards you I don't think he's a man. Don't listen to him if he tell you it's your fault he's this way, it isn't nothing you can do to make him treat you that way if he claims he LOVE you. You have more power over him if he doesn't have another way of handling the situation. You can do much more better than him. Just think about it!!!!!
2007-01-22 08:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Tim's Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! GET OUT, NOW!
If you have kids, take 'em and go. Don't stop long enough to pack anything. Just get out.
After you've gone to a safe place he knows nothing about, contact the police and press charges. Get a restraining order against him from a judge. Then you can contact all of your friends and set up a time with the police to go back and get your stuff. Take only what is yours (and the kids' if you have 'em) and make one trip. The police will ensure that all concerned remain civil and conflict-free.
Then get a divorce.
There is no, repeat, NO, excuse for verbal or physical abuse in a relationship. The abuser never changes, except to get worse. Write this loser off and start your life anew. It won't be easy; it will be one of the hardest things you've ever done. But, you'll be safe and alive.
2007-01-22 08:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by NorthStar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say leave him. Even though he gives you what you want you don't need to stay in an abusive relationship. That is just wrong. You can do better. There are men out there that will give you everything and not be abusive. Those are the good ones.
2007-01-22 09:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by jessica c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you dont need that he isnt really taking care of you if he abuses you. It will affect you in the long run both mentally and physically. I was married to a man who was the same way...its affected me to the point where (i am divorced now) i have panic attacks whenever somebody says mean things to me or yells and screams...or remotely gets close to being violent with me...its not fun..you dont deserve it..leave him for your mental and physical health. There are plenty other guys out there who wont abuse you at all.
2007-01-22 07:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! Abuse is never ok. You all need to seek counseling for the both of you and if he refuses, you need to figure out what's best for you. I think you need to speak with someone either way because you are wondering whether you should stay in an unhealthy relationship, which may mean that you may have some personal issues with yourself that need to be worked out. Do all of this with prayer and guidance from God and He will direct you in the way that you should proceed.
2007-01-22 12:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Moni B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you deserve better dont you
I mean honestly why should you settel for half the package when you can have it all
Theres plenty of other guys out there who would give you what ever you want and not touch you or verbully put you down
common girl y put up with that..
on top of that he says it's your fault thats not a man thats a boy a little boy who's playing games
So no your anwser is no
Not when you can be completly happy not just half
2007-01-22 07:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by rm4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Why do you want a man who gives you things and takes care of you when he won't give you the respect you deserve? Dump his abusive a ss and find someone who will give you things and take care of you, but also give you love and respect. There are plenty of men out there who do that. You can also give yourself the things you want and take care of your own self and not depend on a man to do that. Try to be independent as well.
2007-01-22 07:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a male and it not your fault for who he is... It his fault for being like that might learn from his father or someone... You haven't done anything to him to be like that. and now he getting little more physically abusive and i think you should leave asap before you end up seriouly body harms and can lead to death. So, find help, asked for your family help and friends... they got to help you get though and put you in safe place. Better do it now before to late.
I am a male I am married to my wife and I never ever Verbally or physically abusive to her... I learn that my real father and mother are like that and what Did I do I change to be a better person not to be like both of them. and I am glad I change so much. I 2 kids and 3rd due in 2 months and guess what I show alot of love caring and Of course they can be pain the *** and I get mad but Knowing that their first time be in the world and first time to learn so much from me and wife and everyone and so He the one who making himself like this and not you.
2007-01-22 08:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother with this one I went through it and there are men that will treat you like a princess and give you all you deserve. He is out there. the longer you are in the relationship the more you are damaged by the abuse.
2007-01-22 09:20:55 · answer #11 · answered by surfawave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋