Do you ever let?

Question

your baby or any baby in your care "cry-it-out"? I mean, if you know they are well-fed, have a clean diaper, and are not ill, do you leave them in their room or crib, to cry themselves to sleep or cry till they are ready to stop? Either way, if you do or don't why so?Just wondering.

Answer 1

I think after 4 to 6 months, you know your own baby pretty well. I found that my first got so used to me holding him and rocking him to sleep that if I put him down in his crib not fully asleep (but very tired) that he would cry. I decided that I did not want to rock and sing and hold him until he fell asleep forever. He needed to learn when he was tired to put himself to sleep. I did let him cry it out, it took a few weeks but he became a wonderful sleeper. My second child, right from the beginning when I knew she was sleepy (there are obvious signs) I would lay her in her crib awake and say "night-night" and she would suck her thumb and fall fast asleep within a minute. Children do need to learn how to calm themselves and learn that they can fall asleep without anybody or thing helping them. I believe from seeing others that refused to ever let their baby cry, that they may possibly regret that decision when their child is 5 and they still have to sleep with them or it takes an hour every night to get them to sleep. It will only get worse and it will only get harder to correct the problem the older the child gets.

Answer 2

Usually, I never let him cry. BUT once in a while when I know he is allright, clean diaper, well fed, and just won't stop crying, and I don't know what I can do anymore, then I step out of his room and take some deep breaths in another room while he cries. Then when I'm calmer maybe 5 minutes after I go back to check on him and things get better for both of us!

Answer 3

My baby is 9 & 1/2 months and I have never let him "cry it out". But I have a quiet & calm baby, which is not the case for everyone.

All parents have to do whats best for them & their children:)

I know that stressed out parents are encouraged to put their baby in the crib & take a break if it is neccessary.

Answer 4

no i don't because how would you feel if you were really upset about sumthing and no one came for you its the exact same thing with the baby maybe the baby is saying i need to be cuddled and what would your self esteem be like if you mother constantly abandoned you when you were a baby would you learn you can't rely on anyone but yourself and that your mother won't always be there for you its a different story when it a toddler having a tantrum but when they are a baby that their only way to express sumthing is wrong and if you don't care what does that tell them-------have you heard about babies who have been malnourished and not cared for when they go into foster care they just don't cry anymore because they learned that it has acomplishes nothing even if they are starving isn't that sad???

Answer 5

NO I never let him cry it out. He is now 1 1/2 yo and is not spoiled and doesn't cry every time he wants something. He has been a great child. If your baby is crying, he/she just may need you to be close or may not bee feeling well...or just having a bad day.

After all your baby was bound to you for 9 mths. Sooth your baby, let him/her know you are there for him/her and will always be there. Let him/her know they are secure in your care.

Answer 6

I think letting your child cry it out is cruel & unusual punishement. No child deserves that. He needs love & care at the earliest stagest of life! Leaving him to cry it out will only cause in emotional trauma and problems in the future.

Answer 7

They just had this on Dr Phil, you are never ever supposed to let your baby cry it out. It puts stress on the brain and can lead to serious health problems.

Answer 8

No please do use the cry it out technique.

Use the controlled crying technique much more gentle, still effective, and at least the baby know you are still around.