I recently found out my wife was pregnant. I was overjoyed until I found out it was not my baby
2007-01-22 07:29:48 · 10 answers · asked by Josh R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ouch, that's a bummer. I'm sorry to hear that. But really I'd probably file for a divorce.... Do you have kids now? If so it'll be tougher. Marriage is sacred, and screwing around breaks that special bond, getting pregnant, well that's just too much. Find a good counselor, because talking about how you are hurt will help. If you can talk with your wife about how she hurt you, then I recommend doing that, and then taking some time for yourself. She made the mistake, not you, so don't feel bad. Chin up, chest out bro.
2007-01-22 07:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by FearDragons 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) I'm so sorry she did this to you, nobody deserves that. You are truly better off without her and she obviously doesn't have your best interest at heart. Take good care of yourself while you heal.
Here's some advice from Dr. Phil'
There's no question that breakups can be painful, and that it's difficult to trust and love again. But there are ways to get past the pain. In time, it is absolutely vital to put the pain behind you and move forward with your life and love. Otherwise, you are giving away your power to the people who hurt you.
Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing.
Sometimes you can't get over being hurt until you know you've been heard. Give yourself permission to express your anger and sadness.
Don't embarrass yourself or put yourself in a situation where you'll look back and feel humiliated. Driving past your ex's house, making dozens of phone calls or e-mailing non-stop is no way to let go of the past or come out with your head high.
Learn to trust again. Whenever you get involved in a relationship, you know there's a risk. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest. You can go through life suspicious, or loving and laughing.
2007-01-22 18:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much you can do in a situation like this. The only thing I will ask you is not to do anything irrational like trying to harm her.
The fact of the matter is that the relationship is now on the rock or may be over. It depends on you.
Whatever the case, ask yourself these questions:
1) Do you want her back?
2) Are you prepared to for give her and take her back?
3) Would you take the child as your own?
4) How strong is our love for her?
Things You can Do
1) Get some exercises
2) treat yourself to a special dinner-cook it yourself
3) talk to a few friends about your feeling-those friends who will understand,
4) and get a few weeks off and then start dating again
2007-01-22 15:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man I would be so pissed off and very upset and wow I mean to found out that it not my baby???? So, I though I found the right person to be with for long time and found out she been banging not only one person or more???
You know, same time you should be glad that it not your child anymore and you are free to go. I know it hard but you are very honest person and caring and really have alot respect for your own wife. and faithly but now she didn't do any things that you do. I do hope you find a woman that you truly in love iwth and does the same thing with you.
2007-01-22 16:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it's really not your baby than u need to get divorced, as this is something u may not be able to get past. takes time to get over a hurt, doesn't just leave us there is no time limit on pain and hurt. not your doing or fault it's her's. u will be hurt, have to go through the grief and only than will u start healing and feeling better. counseling will help, there are alot of group counseling out there in most cities, u will find it difficult to go this alone, as betrayal hurts, nothing shakes our world more than the one we loved and trusted betraying us with someone else. got to accept it, and know u had no part in it, this was her doing, and she will have to deal with her choices.
2007-01-22 17:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is some thing to really be upset about. I feel bad for you. I advise for you to seek professional help in dealing with this. I can guess you are just torn and crushed by receiving this news from your wife. Just be glad she told you the truth now and not later. Some women tell their husbands years later that the child he thought was his, actually is not. I can guess the next few weeks, and possibly months will be a rough ride for you, my best to you!
2007-01-22 16:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on as soon as your heart will allow, it will be hard, and trust issues will now be in your life with her or with anyone you are with, but where can a relationship/marriage go after such infidelity and hurt, it will only get more painful and hurt for you. Seek professional counseling, and move on with your life, concentrate on you, and realize someone will come along and it will be a good thing, she was not good enough for you!
2007-01-22 16:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well did she tell you it was not your baby ? if she did tell you it was not your baby then i think you should go up to her and ask her whos baby it is and ask her why did she cheat on you was it something you did to her or something she wanted to do to you to get back at you or she just thought that she wanted to have sex because you wear not given her any or not as much as she wants from you.
2007-01-22 15:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by brittbritt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do things that you really enjoy doing. sometimes you need to just cry untill you get it out of your system
2007-01-22 15:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by u2ugly2nv18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww. Just go out and forget everything that happened.
2007-01-22 15:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋