I was caught up in the Thailand tsunami December 2004. I'm still too scared to go back to Thailand though I know some people who go back each year. They say it helps. How can I move on? Am I being pathetic as I was one of the lucky ones?
2007-01-22 07:19:24 · 32 answers · asked by OO7 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You may be ready to go back one day but then again you may never be ready to. We all have our own fears and some take longer than others to come to terms with them...some of course never do. There is no prescription or order to these things usually and if the memory is too bad then stay away and only go to places where you feel safe. You arent being a coward....you had an awful experience. You lived to tell the tale and you are a survivor. Live long and live happily in the knowledge that there is always someone worse off than you.
Alan
2007-01-22 08:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by bin612005 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only u can decide what to do. Ur not pathetic, many people lost their lifes and u came close. Remember ur living for a reason, to move on and have a future and do something in life. U do need to face the fear and go back to get closure, when u do that is up to u. The longer u leave it the harder it will be. I lost my grandma 13yrs ago, she lived on the south coast, i still havent been able to go back and i regret it. If u go back then so will i. It will be hard but im sure everything will be fine.
2007-01-22 07:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by michee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was a very traumatic experience, so I think you are very normal to still be scared. Of course, if you want to move on, you need to face your fears. Go back and visit! Don't stay in a place so close to the ocean or stay on the highest floor of a hotel. Ease into it and remind yourself of how lucky you are to have survived such a thing and remember just how rare something like a tsunami of that size is. Good luck!!
2007-01-22 07:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not being pathetic,you've been through a terrible ordeal,go with your instincts, if you don't feel ready to re-visit Thailand that's fine.People react to this kind of thing in different ways,what's right for some might not be the answer for you.You still sound quite traumatised by what you went through.perhaps you should see a counsellor.just someone who'll sit and listen to what you have to say..don't rush...just take your time...surviving an ordeal like this can carry it's own problems...feelings of guilt and ...what ifs...do what's right for you.
2007-01-22 07:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not pathetic, people deal with traumatic experiences in different ways. Don't let what other people do influence your decision to stay away. Leave it if you are not ready, maybe in a couple of years you'll feel differently.
Maybe you should go for some counselling? Talk to your G.P.
An aeroplane I was on made an emergency landing 7 years ago, I have no intention of getting on another one anytime soon. My husband was with me though, and he flew away on business a couple of weeks after the incident, and didn't even think of it. However, my kids are on about going to Disneyland so I'm gonna have to face it soon. xx
Good Luck.
2007-01-22 07:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all NO your not being pathetic, you went thru a very life threatening and traumatic experience, you need to keep telling yourself that you are going to go back one day, the more you say this the more convinced you will be until eventually you will have the faith and the courage to make the trip. Good Luck
2007-01-22 07:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by laughinggiraffe2003 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You do need to go back, but when you are ready. You can be scared and unsure of it, just in your heart you will have to feel like you can face your fears.
No, you are not pathetic, go with someone you trust if it is hard to go back alone. Glad you made it through. You could help others in a way you do not know.
2007-01-22 08:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by stbill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to go back to thailand don't. I don't think i would go back over there if i had the same experience as you and no you arn't being pathetic, you are being human
2007-01-22 07:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by sky 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no u are not being pathetic - i was no way involved in the tsunami and it scared the crap out of me for all the people over there-if u are not in counseling-try that first-it takes a long time to heal from tragic events in your life -take your time-when you are ready you will know - i am happy you survived
2007-01-22 07:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could go to the other side of Thailand.like koh samui or somewhere.but to be realistic you have more chance of having a plane crash on the way over there than being caught up in another tsunami again.
2007-01-22 07:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by bastaad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋