If you were or are married and something happened to your partner that you couldn't have sex forever would you stay with them and find sex else where? Or would you divorce them? Or would you do something else?
Just curious. I know someone who is in their 30's and said if his wife couldn't give him sex he would stay with her and take care of her but look elsewhere and he feels she should give him permission and be understanding of his needs.
I would think most people would stay and not look elsewhere.
What do you think? And, what would you do?
2007-01-22 07:15:39 · 31 answers · asked by Sarah S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The marriage vows say for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, it would be hard to stay but that is what I would do.
2007-01-22 10:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to her, that she couldn't participate in any sex with him in anyway? Are we talking paralyzed from the neck down ala Christopher Reeves?
All I know if I was in that shape, I would not keep my wife from finding sexual pleasures elsewhere. It could be a private thing that she doesn't have to let me know about... but really why should one person "tie-up" the sex life of another. Another person's sex life is not a thing for you to own, it is a precious part of them that you ought to enhance at every opportunity.
My initial point is there are lots of ways to have sex... no fair just throwing up your hands and saying I can't do anything, when really you could....
2007-01-22 15:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if the marriage is real, then both would want to stay together and find ways to be intimate with one another. If it were my hubby, I would not mind him going out to have sex with someone else, but I would not want to know about it. If it were my hubby that could not have sex then I am not sure, I think that I would talk things over with him and go from there, but I truly feel that there are ways to be intimately satisfied without traditional sex as in penetration.
2007-01-22 15:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by tryin4freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay. I am married to a man who has a chance of becoming paralyzed and I would never leave him because of an inability to have sex. If I had urges, I doubt I would go outside the marriage. I would certainly talk to him about it before I was unfaithful, but then again we have a very communicative relationship. There are other things besides intercourse anyway.
2007-01-22 15:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by Tara P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were married, and I would not look elsewhere. When you marry, you marry for better or for worse. There are other ways to keep love alive. If you are truly in love, than you would look no where else, just take care of your man or woman.
2007-01-22 15:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would expect to not have to go without any kind of sex for the rest of my life, but I'd prefer to not have to go looking for it. There are a lot of options avaliable to us if the standard options were discounted. Just how disabled is she? My wife and I have talked about if her or I were in a coma and what we'd do or not do. If it were that extreem, I'd go without. If she's just no longer able to allow me entry, but she's otherwise fully functional, then her hands and her mouth still work, and I expect to not be celebate in the strictest sense of the word.
2007-01-22 16:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are right about most people staying and not looking elsewhere.
If you divorce someone because they all of a sudden can't have sex then you are shallow and vain. Marriage is for better or worse. It should be about more than just getting your rocks off.
Be creative but be faithful.
2007-01-22 15:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by puckbunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay and not look elsewhere. Sex is not a requirement for me to be happy with a person.
2007-01-22 16:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be shallow to not stick it out and go without. Just learn the art of self pleasure and continue the relationship. Also, unless your partner became a complete quadriplegic with every body cavity was sewn shut or a bad burn victim I would find it hard to believe you could not find at least one thing for the partner to pleasure you with.
2007-01-22 15:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by glibby3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with my husband and be happy and use lots of toys lol and have him do oral on me and i would do oral on him... There are ways around this you know. Even masturbation. I dont feel you need to look elsewhere for it... If you really love the person you will stay true to them and love them no matter what!
2007-01-22 15:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay. I can give myself an orgasm. What I can't give myself is the love, support, and laughter I have with my husband. Sex is secondary. A good relationship is a rare and beautiful thing. Sex is just sex.
2007-01-22 16:22:59 · answer #11 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋