Help my friend is getting married?

Question

what should she do?
She is only 19years old!

Answer 1

Well..she needs to think about it a lot. She is young and she needs to mak sure that its what she wants. Getting married is a BIG responsibilty even though it doesnt really seem that way.

Answer 2

True that 19 seems like a very young age to get married and its quite normal that you feel she is making a big mistake. Perhaps for you getting married at 19 would be a massive mistake. However you do have to accept and realise that this is her life and not your own. This is her reality not yours. Perhaps for her getting married is the most natural thing right now. Perhaps it is the right time for her despite her young age. Your friend might be fully prepared for this big step in her life and it doesn't necesarily mean that shes making a mistake. This doesn't have to end in divorce further down the line. She could be making the right choice for her.

Has it occurred to you that maybe your scared of losing her? Perhaps you're afraid that things will change between you two once she's married. Nothing has to change. Your friendship doesn't have to die.

All I can say is be there for her. This is her life and therefore her choice. Her family is probably telling her the exact same thing: that she's too young. She doesn't need to hear that from you too. Remember friends are the family we choose. Support her in everything and enjoy this very special moment in her life. I'm sure she wants to share it with you. And if things don't go to plan don't tell her you told her so. Just be a friend.

Answer 3

My best friend who was is 19 years old got married in mid December. I was the witness at her wedding and had to sign the marriage papers. At the wedding I was quite upset because I felt like she did not have enough support from her family and even some friends but when I stopped and look at her and her husband I realized that they did not care what anyone else thought. They seemed so happy. If your friend and her fiance are truly ready for it then I don't see a problem, but they need to know that it will not be easy. People will not approve, they will probably have many issues throughout the first few years including money, but they can get through it all if they go about it in a mature way. They should be aware of the things that they are getting themselves into. I suggest they go to a couples counselor before they get hitched.

Answer 4

Sorry hon, you can't do anything. What I mean is you can't stop her from getting married. Just be a good friend to her.
I've known quite a few people who got married before 25. One girl I know got married at 16 and is still happily married raising 2 beautiful children. If he isn't a jerk, let her make her own mistakes. Pray that she's taking birth control for a few years, just in case.

Answer 5

Who cares if she is 19 years old. If they love eachother they should do it, but as a friend you should always be there to help her go through any rough times she might have. Whether she is 19 or 40 she will have her ups and downs in her marriage. No marriage is perfect at any age !!!
I got married at 19 too and I am still married to my high school sweetheart. I am 31 years old and I don't regret it.

Answer 6

Girl, try and talk to her, this is not a date, this is a life time thing!! Believe me, I know, I'v been married for almost 3 years, I have a 3 year old daughter and I feel 50 years old, she is throwing away her youth!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

I agree with david o. Just sit back and enjoy the bachelor party. But if you are really concerned tell her to wait after college to see if she still likes him. Tell her not to throw her future away

Answer 8

Not get married becuase she will be divorced by the time she is 25!

Answer 9

Unless there is something seriously wrong with her relationship; i say be happy for her and support her no matter what her choice maybe.

Answer 10

Let her get married, if they love each other, why not?