My dad said this to me today and was wondering if you agree.
He said " Don't tell your frineds everything about yourself especially the bad as they will use it like ammo to fire at you when they feel like it!"
Is he being paranoid or is there some sense there?
2007-01-22 06:55:58 · 56 answers · asked by ? 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I agree, you shouldn't tell Anyone, Everyting about you. Think about it do your parents know EVERYTHING about you? I mean EVERYTHING! If you won't tell every sorid detail to them why would you to a "friend". There are somethings that are better left unsaid and kept to ones self. Hence the birth of the phrase "Too Much Information". Listen to your dad. A little mystery is good among friends and I can gaurantee they are not sharing everything with you.
2007-01-22 07:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Love United 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not paranoid. Your reputation is very important. Of course, what you think about yourself is more important than what others think of you. However, if you are open about bad stuff concerning yourself, you are creating the potential for a bad reputation. Live a clean life. Do what you know is right. This way you have nothing to hide and you'll have no feelings of guilt. If you have made an honest mistake in the past, it might be fine to speak about it only if you are trying to help someone not to make the same mistake.
2007-01-22 07:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi well ur dad is right. Keep some little secrets to urself it builds self esteem to know that u have learned from ur mistakes and faults We all have them. And yes if u admit to doing something thats "bad" all the time they will use it against u if u get into an argument. So keep some things underwrap, we all do, and we are human and we all make mistakes so give urself and ur conscious a break and look ahead more at the wonderful future instore for u. ok,
2007-01-22 07:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by jane h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) why does your father say this to you and (B) i would be the worrying kind. He is being very un father like and to tell his daughter this should be opposite. why would anyone if you told them something bad use it as ammo i would say opposite.
I worry for the question you have asked i feel that you have something that you want to say and cannot, i may be wrong in this. If you do have a problem good or BAD then speak out about it to a friend or someone else.
2007-01-22 21:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by SAMANTHA H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what your dad is saying is be careful who you trust, when the crap hits the fan and your so low you need scraping off the floor then you will know who your true friends are. Friends are great when all is well, but an argument with a so called friend can result in your deepest, darkest secrets being spread out like peanut butter by people who were once friends but now are nasty,evil people who take pride in watching you suffer.
Sorry, didn't mean to get too heavy there!
2007-01-22 07:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by crockett 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I think the world is in a scary state if we have to question the sincerity of our friends. You dad is kinda right, though. Have you ever seen "Mean Girls" or "Heathers"? Those who you think are really in your corner can sometimes back you into one on a whim. I'm not sure how old you are, but females can be quite mean when their age starts with a 1.
(Have hope! They do mature and grow out of it).
If they are new friends, I would be a little cautious. To an extent, they are still strangers to you. If they are friends you have known for a long time, I think you're okay.
2007-01-22 07:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by YSIC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not paranoid at all, he is talking absolute sense. You should always hold back on some things, NEVER put your all in to a relationship - friend or otherwise - because you should never put in more than you can afford to lose. It is amazing how quickly your 'best friend in the world' can turn and become your sworn enemy. There is a thin line between love and hate - in EVERY relationship. Enjoy your friends but do not give out more than you can afford to lose.
2007-01-22 07:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Flossie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess he is being slightly paranoid but just trying to protect you. If the people that you view as friends are true friends, then anything bad about yourself will not be used against you. Anybody that does use it as ammo during an disagreement for example can't really be considered true friends in my opinion.
2007-01-22 06:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by fozz89 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your dad. It's a sad fact that some people may use some things against you some time.
Take a look at some ex wives/husbands, how much they loved their partners ONCE and then when they split, they take them to the cleaners.
Sad but true, be yourself but don't give all of yourself.
2007-01-22 09:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by rose1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I assume you're a teenager? If you're not I am truly sorry...
Sounds like your dad has given you good advice, teenagers can be evil, especially the girls (I know because I was one!) and if you have a falling out with your friends and they no something you don't want everyone to know they are gonna use it first chance they get (imagine if you told them you wet the bed when you get nightmares - to them thats gold!)
As you get older you will learn who you can trust and maybe be able to confide in them more but for now, keep a few secrets as they are - secret
2007-01-22 07:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Lulu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋