My husband and i are seperated, he became extremery depressed and started making suicide threts and last night my brother in law was out looking for him and he found his car parked next to a riverside with the door wide open he later said to the police that he herd a gunshot but he never said anything about this to me my brother-in-law has a habbit of lieing and covering things up for his brother, my soon to be ex husband also has a habit of running of for days and not telling anyone where he is, my question is am i a bad person for not worrying? Its just the police told me that if he was making threts that this could all be some big ploy for attention and that in most suicide cases the family and friends of the person who killed themselfs never even suspected they were unhappy
2007-01-22 06:46:30 · 16 answers · asked by tamika_follow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am concerned and i left his because he told me he didnt love our daughter so i do still have a lot of recentment
2007-01-22 06:58:07 · update #1
No, by no means. He does not care for himself why should you? Let him go and forget him. Suicide threats are B.S. anyway.
2007-01-22 06:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jimfix 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not a bad person. You're just sick of dealing with a man who is overly dramatic and desperate for attention. Seperating from someone doesn't mean you don't care about them it just means you are no longer going to let their behavior effect or control your life.
Even if he did try to kill himself what are you going to do? Do you plan to sacrfice your happiness and that of your child forever to keep him sane and alive? Then you'll be the one depressed and threatening to kill yourself.
I think its just a ploy for attention and you should contune on as if he simply disappeared again. If it turns out to be something more serious.....Well then I'm sorry for your lose, but don't let guilt trap you in an unhealthy relationship.
2007-01-22 07:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by WriterChic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be concerned. If he said he doesn't love your daughter, why would he be so upset over the deal that he would kill himself? He wouldn't. If he didn't care, he would just walk away. Also, if he shot himself, where is the body? He couln't have hidden himself, honey. Sounds to me like he's using suicide threAts to control you and scare you into submission. It's manipulation. He's sick and he doesn't deserve you or your daughter. The two of you are better off without him.
2007-01-22 09:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it makes you a bad person at all. Like the police said, he is just doing this to get attention. And if he does end up dead...well it was nothing you did. No reason to feel bad - it's all on ur ex.
2007-01-22 06:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it does not make you a 'bad person' not to be worried whether he's alive or dead ... but it does tell me that you are 'THROUGH' with this relationship, and you need to 'look forward' to the rest of your life, and that means seeing a 'divorce lawyer' even BEFORE you know whether he's alive or dead. If he's dead, then you won't need to get the divorce, but if he's still alive, he could be 'just playing you' so you need to get that divorce filed for NOW, before you 'know' whether he's alive or dead.
2007-01-22 06:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The police dont play games, so if your soon to be ex and his brother are playing games, im sure they could face charges, some people say they are going to kill themselves to get attention, NEGATIVE attention is better than no attention at all.
2007-01-22 06:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sparky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No this does not make you a bad person. You probably are tired and got used to his tactics for always being dramatic and lying about things as this. You are right not to let his threats worry you, it is he and his brother who are being unfair by trying to manipulate you by telling you all of these lies. I assume you lost faith in whatever they say, can't say that I blame you. You sure did marry an basket case, hope he comes to his senses and gets some professional help for himself. Best to you!
2007-01-22 06:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Although this is a very selfish action on his part...any person with some ounce of a heart would be a little bit concerned for his well-being and would at least care if he is alive...
2007-01-22 06:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you seem like your in a catch 22 situation like you feel like you should be worried cause you shared something special with him and dont want him to die. but on the other hand he has hurt you so bad that your so emotionally drained from all of his nonsence that you just cant put a certain feeling on the situation.
2007-01-22 06:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by jason m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no u not bad person.. u are doing the right thing, cause he is ur ex why would u have be worry?
2007-01-22 07:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋