My husband failed his drug test and lost his job. Should I leave him. He doesn't care about us enough to keep his job.
2007-01-22 06:43:41 · 11 answers · asked by maryrelaxing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How about I have put up with this my entire 25 years of marriage. He says he needs to smoke marijuana because of his bad childhood. I lived a totally opposite family life. I had a perfect family. This is the 3rd time this year.
2007-01-22 07:02:02 · update #1
he doesn't care about himself or you guys if he is using drugs!
2007-01-22 06:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer. The problem you should focus is on why did you marry this guy in the first place. If you're from an abusive childhood or your parents had addictive personalities, you're bound to make the same mistake unless you confront these issues. Just leaving, without working on what made you choose a drug using loser like this, may make you vulnerable to the next one.
2007-01-22 14:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that your husband may have lacked better judgement/responsability. But leaving him when the going gets rough is just as bad. Is this the first time?, does he have a dependency problem or was it spur of the moment. Answer those questions, get some cousneling and work it out if possible,
2007-01-22 14:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by Joyboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's really up to you but if you take your vows seriously then you will give him at least one chance, that is if he's willing to try to get clean. People who take drugs aren't able to think clearly like the rest of us so they don't realize what they are doing. He has to want help though, otherwise there's nothing you can do. You can only be supportive, patient, etc for so long... especially if you have children- their needs come first.
2007-01-22 14:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves u he will seek treatment for a drug problem. If he is not willing to do so then yes it is time to leave him before u get pregnant and his drugs to damage to the baby. The baby doen't have to be born for drugs to harm it. If he is doing drugs at the time of conception then he can do a lot of harm to his unborn child.
2007-01-22 15:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by Shery W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you help and support him. The marriage vows don't say " Leave when the going gets tough." You need to talk to a priest, rabbi or lay counselor. Selfish, selfish.
2007-01-22 14:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to do what you feel you need to do, if you feel he dont care then why stay, if you feel he can get some help stand by him , sounds to me like you have made up your mind in just your question
2007-01-22 14:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sparky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should first try to support him by helping him get treatment. If he refuses treatment or any help for his problem, then leaving might be best.
2007-01-22 14:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by KingGeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you be the one to get a good job them and help and encourage him to get help for his problem and addiction.
2007-01-22 15:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut. He obviously doesn't care about himself very much, and if he doesn't, how can he be there for you? Good luck.
2007-01-22 15:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by dollface345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋