Where do I go from here?

Question

For the past 3 months my husband and I been fussing. Yesterday he told me that he is thinking about leaving at the end of this month. We have been fussing over the way he treat me and he refuse to talk. What should I do?

Answer 1

if he doesn't want to communicate and isn't interested in working on your marriage, then let him go.

my husband and i have our moments, but things work b/c we are willing to do just that...work.

frankly, i don't want to tell you to give up, but gosh, if he isn't willing to care about your marriage anymore..then, i would suggest mayeb seperating and see how things go. sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder and sometimes it just makes it easier to not care.

no matter what happens, take solace in the fact that you are strong and no matter what happens you can get through it and you will carry on and every day life will get a little easier.

i left an ex-boyfriend and was living in a tiny apartment (it was one room and bathroom and didn't even have a single closet), but i made it through. i embraced my life and was determined to rise above the failed relationship. i learned that i was a survivor and no one could take that away.

now, i'm married and very happy, but i know that if my husband ever turns into a craphead, that i'll be fine.

take care.

Answer 2

Let him go. Stand on your own and let him go. If he was to stay and still treat you wrong and be wanting to leave then you both will be unhappy. It is scarry I know but let him go. It will be best for you and him and your children in the long run if you have any. Oh, by the way, tell him to go now....not at the end of the month with giving you two more weeks of heartache and false hope. If he is really going then go.

Answer 3

refuse to talk back to him. don't give into the argument by trying to talk. if he doesn't want to talk then don't talk to him. that's what i would do. i will not let anyone just leave me hanging like that. if someone wants to be mad at me...then i will do nothing to stop that person. maybe you two just need more space than you are currently giving each other.

Answer 4

Let him walk and then change the stupid lock just in case he comes back to bother you.

Play "I will Survive" in the background as he crosses the threshold for the very last time.

Answer 5

if he wants to leave..there really is little you can do to change his mind if its already made up. you can always suggest getting an outside source to try and sort out your problems..maybe try counseling? if he doesnt want to go, go on your own and see what happens, you may find out that you don't need him and that underneath it all, you aren't happy either. counseling never hurts, so give it a try..what do you have to lose? good luck!

Answer 6

Seek counseling for at least yourself and if this does not work then try to see if he is open to marriage counseling at all... If there is no saving to your marriage then let him go and leave him. Why is he wanting to leave so bad and not work on things with you?

Answer 7

Happiness is sometimes a bitter pill.

Best case: he needs some time to think about things.

Worst case: He has already thought about things and this is his solution.

Answer 8

If you all belong to a church within that community you can find help support and Godly counsel. You do not want to hear what the world has to say, especially when you have been joined together in the sight of God. Remember, " WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER, LET NO MAN TEAR APART".

WHAT I AM SAYING IS THAT YOU HAVE TO FIGHT TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE TOGETHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Talk to him without words. Like maybe try drawing a picture and leaving it somewhere he will find it.

Answer 10

How long have you two been together. If you truly love him and he to you, seek help. Try to talk to someone about it a unbiased person to play mediator.