Home many people here have been abandoned by a spouse that they have loved.... Did this really hurt and upset you and your life? What did you do about it and did the spouse that left you ever come back or want to be back with you? How long did it take you to realise that they were never coming back to you? Did you divorce over this? If so how long did it take you to do so?
2007-01-22 06:16:34 · 10 answers · asked by Lady Hewitt 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes he abandoned me, yes it hurt me badly, my spouse chose to stay with the other woman, i chose after finding out about the affair to divorce him, i realized when we went to the divorce that he no longer had any feelings for me, and didn't care, took me 6 months to get my divorce, would have taken only 3 months, but i waited awhile to see if he might change his mind, was i dumb or what? the day of the divorce i had a moving truck ready to leave the state, heading for my home state, as i just wasn't up to seeing them about town, seemingly happy and in love, and me feeling very sad. but out of sight doesn't mean out of mind, u carry it with u awhile till u really accept it, or meet someone else that takes your mind off it. never stayed around long enough to see if he ever would have come back or not, as he did after all choose her over me, and the marriage just never would have been the same anyway.
2007-01-22 10:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We struggled with problems and around 10 yrs into the marriage he said he was splitting. I thought about it a whole 20 seconds and passed him going out the door. I let him know I did not make a good martar(? not sure about the spelling) but I was not staying here to wait while he had a good time. I also did not want to raise my 2 children alone. I knew I would always be there for them but most men who leave are never "there" for their own children after the break up.
Put yourself first in the sense that you must take care of YOU to be good for anyone else. I am a success story but mainly because I did not accept any other path! Life is too short to be miserable any way any how. There are worse things than being alone in a marriage.
I instructed him to feed the dog and let the cat out each night, told him to be sure and make the girls do their homework and I would be calling on ever other weekend. To make a long story, short, he thought about it a few seconds and changed his mind. We have been together for another 26 yrs.
Sometimes just letting them know you don't really care that much works well for some of us. I never did play the "I can not live without you" type person anyhow. Now we still went thru some tuff stuff. Forgiveness was topic number ONE! If you can not handle total forgiveness seek help from a outside professional, for your own sake... no matter if they stay or leave.
2007-01-22 06:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by chattanooga chip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My now ex husband abandoned me and our 2 sons. We had been married for almost 16 years and he decided that he wanted his "freedom". He had an affair that I was aware of and had decided to forgive him and restore our marriage. However, he had decided to live a double life and make me believe that the affair was over when in fact it wasn't. After I confronted him, he packed up his bags and left the day after our oldest son graduated from middle school. Several months later, he called saying that he was sorry and wanted to come back but it was too late. There was no way I was going to forgive him and let him in my life to hurt me again. I moved on, filed for divorce and never looked back. It was the best decision I ever made. Three years later, I met a wonderful man who was crazy about me and my boys and we got married almost a year ago. My husband is the best thing that has happened to me ever. I'm so glad I was able to walk away and cut the cord from my previous marriage. If I had to do it again, I most certainly would.
2007-01-22 06:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I had that to me with my ex. He made me and the leave with no place to go, at the time we were living in Louisiana. Thank god my mom took us in. We divorced and he remarried shortly after, to the woman he met while we were still married. The divorce process took about 6months. I have moved on and I am dating a wonderful single father that is serving in the US ARMY in Iraq for almost 2yrs now. I started to date him while I was pregnant with my 3rd child(not his baby). he stuck by me through that whole process. Now I can say that my circle is almost complete!
2007-01-22 06:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by theresa_whitley_28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a period of what did I do wrong comes who is she or he then comes the anger and you want to find out WHY! Slowly comes the acceptance until the day they decide they miss you sooo much and want to come back. Then depending on you and the circumstances comes the JOY either from reconciding OR REVENGE either way you're HAPPY!!!
2007-01-22 06:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by peachiepie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to the grocery store once and was gone for about 3 hours. I went to look at motorcycles at the Honda Store. My wife was ticked but she got over it the next day. We even made monkey love.
2007-01-22 06:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did it to my ex-husband. I abandoned him after 6 months of marriage. I had alot of reason for doing that. Three yrs. later I got my dissolution of marriage.
2007-01-22 10:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife abandonedd me as far as being my mate, but she didn't leave... she just stopped being my wife, and morphed into being a sister or roommate...
Why don't people see this as a major failure to not abandone their role/duty to their spouse.
2007-01-22 06:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,I did.Only to be treated better and it worked
2007-01-22 06:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by tommy_8473 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUP!!
2007-01-22 06:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋