My daughter, hubby, and I use outlook express to handle all our email accounts. When I opened it today, my hubbies account opened up as the default (no password). In it was tons of emails I forwarded to him (most of them unread) and two very, very, disturbing emails. I almost threw up by reading just titles alone. The subject was beyond your average adult content/porn. I thought he never really used this account. All folders like trash, sent, draft were empty except inbox. I know this because he always uses my account.
How could they get there? I don't think people use this as normal everyday spam, I think they could get arrested if they sent out spam like this. Could someone have stolen my hubby's email address? Is my husband leading a double life? Is there something about adult content email that requires some sort of proof of age before sending it? What are the laws, the rules for sending out emails inviting you to visit sites? Is it legal for me to secretly record him
2007-01-22 06:11:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your husband may not be responsible for what arrives in his box. I get over 50 spam a day and that is even with my using Yahoo spam blocker. Someone could have gotten his address and sold it on a list. Once that is done, there is no stopping it unless you change the email address. All it takes is one idiot who can't be trusted to sell your address and there is no tracing who did it. It could even be someone employed by Yahoo who is doing it without their approval.
What you can do is go to your server and engage their filter to stop offensive content from arriving or being opened before you can check it out. You have to be careful with it or you will have it blocking everything with a picture or certain words. Now if after you have the filter in place, the junk still arrives, then you will know that someone is removing the filter to let it in.
This can be dangerous not only from the adult content level, but also from the virus attack that can happen. Some of these spammers place nasty viruses in their picture content so that when you open or download a picture, your machine is then compromised with a virus or a worm. I hope you have something like Norton Anitvirus installed on your machine. If your kids inadvertently open something, it can stop it before damage can be done.
If after you have done all of this, you still think someone is letting the mess into your machine, you can protect your machine with a password so that only you can let someone use your machine. Most of Windows sign-ons ask for user name and password. Change it and then no one can use your machine without you knowing it.
2007-01-22 06:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got some pretty nasty spam emails like that. Once a place gets your email address it seams like all kinds of smut comes in from several sources. So it's not like he had friends from all over sending him stuff like that. Plus since you didn't open it you don't know what's inside. I'm not sure what the laws are about sending out emails like that but it probably varies between states. Probably what happened your husband or someone visited a questionable site or filled out some form that asked if he was over 18 and email address. Or that information was sold to some dirty sites. I'd doubt it's illegal for you to monitor his email since you have legal access to it, but trust issues come into play. He may visit a dirty site now and again being a guy. But if this is real problem for you, you'd be better off asking him. Because this could very well not be his fault and put your mind at ease.
2007-01-22 06:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't over react, it could just be spam. I get tons of that crap all the time. Don't assume he is some warped person you don't know. He may have visited some site at one time or another and they just got a hold of his address. Those sites have all kinds of ways of sending mass mailings out. It's garbage. Next thing to do is confront him. If you do it laden with accusation he will automatically get defensive. Explain it was a mistake and he, you and your daughter should think about passwords. A little privacy never hurt anyone. If he was truly trying to keep you in the dark about the stuff you "accidentally" found, then it would already have had a password protecting it from you and your daughters eyes. It's just junk. Talk about it, make nice conversation about it and throw in a night of hot monkey love, ha ha.
2007-01-22 06:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by paco 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything on line is accessible. Groups send mass emails to anyone and everyone they can get an address to. Take heart that your husband has not opened them. Just delete them, of if you have the option, spam them. It may take a while, but by continuously spamming them, you will eventually eliminate the worst of them. For the reasons you mentioned, you might want to set up a password-protected account so that your daughter will not be exposed to such. Yahoo offers free email accounts that are password protected.
2007-01-22 06:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are totally over reacting! SPAM like that is very common. It depends on where you enter your email address online. Once you address is out there is is sold and resold many times. Once it makes it's way to the porn type companies you might as well get another one because you can never unsubscrbe to all of them you will get.
Because all of his other folders are empty, you are correct in assuming he doesn't use the account. If her were doing something wrong he'd at least try to hide it. Your best bet is to close the email account and share one. That way you know.
2007-01-22 06:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by bal z 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the only way one can get explicit emails is because they either signedup, or had someone else do it for them. but if i was you . I would be careful because you daughter could be next. he could be sending her this stuff under a differant email address. i would check hers as well if a person just visits one adutlt site, they are passed on to another, and it keeps coming. check your daughters and get her a differant email address, and not let your hubby know what it is, and make sure you have her password and email address , and keep it hid from her father.
2007-01-22 06:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons why they came to his inbox. I would take it upon myself to mark them as SPAM and then delete them from his inbox. That why they won't come back, just keep deleting them. He must have been on some questionable sights because they had to have gotten his address some how. If it doesn't stop after you spamed the emails I would tell him that you are afraid your child might see the emails.
2007-01-22 06:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by dynamicduo79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he's a porn addict or he has at one time or another visited a porn site, sometimes it only has to be once and they send a ton or stuff, I accidentally went to white house.com one time not knowing it was a porn site. and my box got flooded since most are marked unread I think he's probably on the up and up, you can always get a spyware program if you are unsure, they aren't illegal and have been used in divorce court.
2007-01-22 06:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when people get those kind of emails, typically referred to as SPAM it is because the person went to sites like that, or sexually oriented sites and signed up or they had spyware, etc. that tracked your guys computer and is sending out the emails to him, advertising the latest dirt. He's probably been surfing porn sites hun.
2007-01-22 06:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax! Spam can be very ugly and disturbing, so simply mass delete everything in the inbox. It is highly unlikely that your husband even saw the spam!
2007-01-22 06:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋