I got involved with a friend's engaged brother. Now there is a chance that I may be pregnant and he wants to have a family with me. ( So he claims) I know his relationship with his fiancee has been on the rocks and that she threatened to kill herself if he ever left him. But now he claims he is in love with me and wants the baby. What do I do? Do I wait around to see if means what he says about having a family with me? Or do I walk away when he seems sincere?
2007-01-22 06:05:28 · 15 answers · asked by dear_summer_09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Society will pay a heavy price for this folly.
2007-01-22 06:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying goes, "you've played with the cat, now you have to put up with the scratches"or, "you've painted yourself into a corner". If we don't learn from our mistakes in life then we're destined to repeat them. I hope you've learned something from all of this. Does it sound like I'm talking in riddles?.Sounds like your learning one of "Life's Lessons", so pay attention.Just make sure your not attending the "school of hard knocks".
Anyway, for what is is worth: your first and single biggest mistake was dating a man who was engaged to another woman.Why would you put yourself in that situation?.Maybe you should see if Jerry Springer could do an episode on that. That would probably put you in yet another ackward situation, the only difference being that you would be in front of millions of people on national television.Go figure?
2007-01-22 14:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by EveretteDavid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have bigger questions to ask yourself than that love!!
Firstly you need to decide, for yourself, if you want this baby or not.
You need to decide if you can cope being a single mum. Every woman should consider this, despite how loving their partner is, you never know what might happen.
If he honestly has a women's life in his hands, why on earth is he rocking the boat by seeing you? He should grow some balls, end it with her, get over the relationship, learn from it and then move on. Not cheat on her, and get someone pregnant. This is going to wreck the poor girl.
The question is, do you want to be with someone who potentially has set himself up to wreck 3 peoples lives?
Also if he can do it to her, what is gonna stop him doing it to you, when you are up to your eyeballs in nappies? I'm not saying that you can't trust him, just to ask yourself whether you trust him. Lets face it, he is cheating on you right now (with his fiancee).
Remind him that there is no easy way to untangle the mess that he has created. He needs to decide, and then act on it. No breaking it gently etc just do it. Although he may want to phone either yours or his fiance's friends to warn them, so that they can get looked after, and not do anything stupid.
2007-01-22 14:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all what posessed you to get involved with an engaged man? those kind of relationships do not work believe me. he may seem to be sincere but he really isn,t. He cheated on his fiance with you so he will cheat again.
2007-01-22 14:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this, isn't it really strange how everyone who dates someone who is married, engaged, or has a boyfriend/girlfriend, their relationship is on the rocks. Wonder why all you smart women fall for this line. Please understand that if his relationship was this horrible, then he wouldn't still be engaged, married or attached in any way. He is playing you. He has his cake and gets to eat it too.
2007-01-22 14:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you were absolutely wrong to become involved with an engaged person. but since you already have, he needs to decide now. make provisions for your baby and let himknow he has to choose now.
It is not fair to your child to have a father who doesn't know what he wants, how will he train his child??
Do not wait around, plan for yourself but give him a limited time to choose.
2007-01-22 14:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a waster who will say anything to get what he wants. How do you think your friend is going to feel when she finds out you behaved like this? You should walk away and find a man of your own, not to mention do a pregnancy test
2007-01-22 14:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can decide. But do not settle down with him just because you are pregnant. A lasting relationship needs a deeper foundation than that.
But think it through. If he would betray his fiancee with you, what may he do to you?
2007-01-22 14:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have got involved with an engaged man in the first place, it's just wrong!!!!
2007-01-22 14:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Her 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes around, comes around!
Doesn't the world have enough problems with the X generation (as they are called)?
You are going to mess up an innocent life with your foolishness.
2007-01-22 14:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by SANCHA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away unless he marries you. Be prepared for him to cheat on you, too. The two of you were foolish enough to have unprotected sex and now you will have a child who will suffer the consquences.
2007-01-22 14:20:52 · answer #11 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋