Im 18 should I get married?

Question

My boyfriend and I have know each other for 5 years. We got together in 2005 and this year he asked me to marry him. He already told my parents that he wants to get married with me. As far as our relationship its at its best I mean yes we've had our ups and downs but never to the point where weve broken up.

Answer 1

This is totally up to you and your guy... If you are ready for marriage and that life time commitment then by all means go for it but if not then slow down and wait.

Answer 2

No way!!! Enjoy your youth while you've got it, because being married is not like dating. The passion leaves, things get hum-drum, the other person gets irritating, it's expensive, etc. If your boyfriend is the one for you, he will be the one for you when you are a little older and both more mature and more prepared to handle life. Really, tho, the best thing to do is to get a college degree before getting into marriage and family. For one reason, marriages don't always last, no matter how much in love you were at 18, and for another thing, something could happen to your husband that would keep him from supporting your children and you will always struggle on your high school education to make ends meet and it won't be a fun life by any stretch of the imagination. This happens A LOT! Be wise, girl! In this case, let your head rule you, not your heart!

Answer 3

No. If I married the guy that I loved when I was 18, I'd be VERY very unhappy with that choice. You have to let yourself experience more things and more people before you get married. At 18, you feel like you've experienced a lot, but wait and see how you feel in 6 or 7 years. You'll be glad you spend your early 20's not married.

Not only that, but if you have to ask a bunch of strangers on Yahoo! Answers whether or not you should get married, the answer is always gonna be "no".

Answer 4

I'm a firm believer in age is just a number. People mature at different ages, and you can't really put an age on when its ok. The country obviously acknowledges that you are an adult when your 18..therefore you make your own choices. Just remember that marriage is a lifetime commitment..are you ready to give yourself to someone forever? I got married when I was 19 and I've never looked back..I love my husband more and more everyday and I don't listen to what other people have said about waiting until your at least "26 or 27," At the time I was more mature then a lot of 30 year olds that I knew. It all just depends..listen to what your heart says, but definitely think about it and don't jump into anything. Good luck!!

Answer 5

Ask that question AGAIN in about 5 years. 18 is way too young to get married and if you two really love each other you will both be so much more mature and adult-like in several years. You are 18. Have some fun, live on the edge a little.

Answer 6

Many questions to ask yourself.....are you going to college?? Is he going to college? How are your going to support yourselves? When do you "plan"on getting married? Are your parents still married? Are his?? How your parents/and his parents relationships are towards one another plays a big influence in your relationship. Yes, there is nothing like your first love but think outside the shadow of love for one moment. You both have your whole future riding on this commitment and it will take some seroius and mature conversation for each of you to make sure you are dong the right thing. If he is willing to sit down with you and talk about your future together then your chances are better. If he wants to just be "goofy" and not serious then he is not mature and ready for the commitment of marriage. Best wishes!

Answer 7

I am 20 years old now and I got married at the age of 18. The best advice I would give anyone is to follow your heart. Pray and ask God to help you with the decision. The worst thing that could make you unhappy is if you marry the wrong person. Be sure that this is something you want.........Do not make a decision based on your feelings because feelings always change

Answer 8

Try being in a relationship for 5 years before deciding you want to marry someone. Things change a lot after the first year or two. If you feel like you want to marry him now, say yes... but put the wedding off for a couple years.

Answer 9

In my opinion (I know we all have opinions....) I would NOT get married at your age hun. You need to live and see the world and what it has to offer. Getting married at a young age doesn't seem to fare well with the statistics. I mean, I'm not saying end the relationship just learn to have fun together ALONE, without children or a legally binding piece of paper with the courts! If it's true lasting love it will survive and maybe later on down the line you will still get married or maybe even, sad to say, you may learn more about yourselves together and it won't be there anymore. Maybe try living together first, like a trial period.... I don't know. You will do what you want to do, I know. I just know that I got married at a young age and sometimes wonder what would have been.

Answer 10

I was once in the same situation. We met when I was 14, we were going to marry after 5 years but our families gave us a hard time because of our religions, so we decided to give it a few more years for our families to learn to accept us as one. Well, I'm glad we waited because after 8 years (I was 22-23 then) we kind of grew distant. There were so many things I regret I didn't experience because I was "So In Love." I'm glad now that our families gave us a hard time because otherwise we probably would have been married......and divorced by now. Just take your time. There's a lot you will want to experience in life, whether it be alone or with your partner. Just don't rush. What will it hurt by taking your sweet time? Nothing. I wish you luck. I know how it feels definitely!

Answer 11

PLEASE READ THIS AND THINK HARD . . . I got married at 18 years old. I am 22 now and I have been with him since the 9th grade. I love him with all of my heart but now I feel like I need to be free and find out who I really am. We never had the chance to be ourselves because as soon as we got married- responsibility hit us! We tried to go to college together but trying to live married life got in the way. . . I ended up having a baby (and it was no accident-which I'll never regret-but we should have waited) and for the past 2 years we have been struggling to survive. We never have time for each other.

Truthfully, I don't think you should marry him right away. The person I was at 18 is not me any more -and I am STILL CHANGING! We as people are going to change throughout our whole lives. . . but believe me the person you are now is not going to be the person you are going to become and I am not saying that you and your boyfriend are meant to be but you guys need to find out who you are individually. I only secluded myself to my husband -I had no friends -nothing! I finally found a friend and she showed me the person that I can be without him and I feel tied down now -TRAPPED!

We too argued a lot in H.S. and I now that I look back we probably never should have married and had a baby it was like we were pretending that our relationship was perfect - we just got caught up in the hustle to survive and provide a good life for our son . . .but what about us -we're not happy. . . I am so stressed. . . it is showing in my health. . DID I MENTION THAT I AM ONLY 22!!!

I am not saying that you guys aren't meant to be but you should hold off on the marriage. It is a legal binding between you and another person and getting out of it (if that ever becomes the case) will be difficult. You can committ to each other in other ways. . . I know you love each other but remember that you are responsible for your own happiness and don't depend on another to give it to you. .Good luck. . . .