For the guys about porn?

Question

What is the real reason to watch it? is it because; 1.you cant get any 2. its a form of releasing your pent up stress 3. you just enjoy watching it or 4. there is some deeper reason i dont understand. I ask this because i just had my first baby 3wks ago and of course my husband cant get any cause im recovering and in the middle of the night i walked past the living room and he was induldging himself with one of his "flix". i dont find it to be a problem cause before and during pregnancy i kept him well satisfied and he never had to watch any to get his fix but now that i cant get it on with him im afraid that he is gonna prefer the movies to what i have to offer and find the women more attractive than me. Am i being irrational and making a big deal out of nothing? three months is a long time to go without some lovin, what do you suggest or think?

Answer 1

Wow, these are two completely different issues, maybe three.

First men watch porn because we don't read romance novels. It is the same. We like to watch hot chicks doing nasty things, thing we or our wives may not do. It is fantasy, plain and simple.

Second, if you are really worried about how long your husband has been with out it, and you do "kept him well satisfied " then what about other forms of sex, like oral or manual. You have many body parts, and I am sure not all of them are recovering.

Third, a woman who really thinks "kept him well satisfied " is kidding herself. Your version of "well satisfied" might be completely different than his. In fact, how many woman who get cheated on would also say "kept him well satisfied"? Many, many I'd bet.

Talk to your man, find out how he feels, that will keep him well satisfied.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I agree that there are other ways and if you just start with the oral on him one night, he won't have to get up out of bed and go watch the porn! Beat him to it. Keep him so satisfied, he won't really need to watch it. Men will always be into looking at other women, no matter what. You should just get used to it. No man will ever not want to look at other women. Just either get into it with him or let him know it's ok once in a while and he won't have to sneek around. There will be more open communication. Even if you think he's seeing women who look better than you, that's ok, because he will COME HOME to you and be like, "What is she gonna do tonight?" He'll be excited to come home and be with you.

Answer 4

For most men, porn is #2 and #3. It's nice to watch beautiful women naked and having sex, whether or not one is actually in a relationship. Fantasy can be a healthy part of one's sex life; the problem is when fantasy takes precedence over reality. Some men become obsessed and addicted to pornography, but not most.

There is a great deal of pornography written and directed by women and aimed at female viewers and couples (plot-driven, more romance, etc.) You and your husband could watch some of these movies together and see if you like them.

Your husband may also just need some "alone time." As long as he's not negelcting your emotional and physical needs, this shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 5

It's called erotica, and both men and women, single and married enjoy additional arousal in their life; there's nothing strange about it at all.

Erotica can be in the form of a short story, an audio tape, a photograph, a video, a painting, a sculpture, etc. Of course, these days the internet provides a good amount of quality erotica for all tastes.

So whether or not YOU enjoy erotica, it's quite normal.

Perhaps you have personal issues and find additional arousals threatening to your self image. This is something each person has to deal with.

Answer 6

You may be jumping to conclusions. If things dont improve in another 2-3 months then you may have a concern. Dont think he will find a porn actress on the Internet more attractive than you. She is just an image, you are real and with him!

With a new baby you ahve enough worries. No need to go looking for more worries now.

Answer 7

You sound pretty frustrated about the situation because your question is split into two. First I think most men find interest in something they'd like to do not in physical beauty. Secondly, don't ignore him because you can't get it on. Find other ways to please EACH OTHER, not just you for him. But don't panic, Yet about the porn thing. Honestly can you say he's never watched it before or you've never caught him before. There is a big difference. He could have tried it because one of his buddies told him too and gave him the movie to watch.

Answer 8

Well what is betting watching the flix and getting his fix or getting his fix from another women? Nothing to be paranoid about, And trust me nothing can replace the real thing, so when you are ready he will be all over you again. Men are visually stimulated. let him enjoy his pron for now and don't let this bother you, focus on your new baby and your recovery.

Answer 9

My god women, give him somre breathing room. Yes he is doing this get his relase. You can't have sex with him. But you can please him other ways. You can offer him oral or mutal masterbation. Just because one part of you is sexaully off limits, doesn't mean the rest of you has to be.

You can also show him affection other ways, like join him when he watches his porn. Hold him, kiss him, fix his fave meal (if you are physcially able that is!) Tell him how much you adore him and how he is your hero. Don't neglect his needs because you can't get yours satisified...

Answer 10

I say talk to him. I know how it feels, my daughters father did it to me and it ruined our relationship. Some women feel very fat and ugly after giving birth and adding your husband watching other women DOES NOT help the situation. Talk to him and if he loves you then he will get rid of the crap and just wait it out. My hubby doesn't do it simply because I asked him not to, I do ocassionally watch one with him just because. Since you can't have sex then do other things for him like oral. Don't just shun him!