Ok my mom doesn't like black people and neither does the rest of my family. i guess mainly because they were all raised were there were none and i was raised where all there is is black people and i love them to death. well i started dating this black guy and he is my world he is the best person i have ever met in my entire life and i love him so so so so so much! he has always been there for me and i know he will always be there for me. he knows i love him and i know he loves me but my mom won't let us be together. His mom loves me to death but my mom doesn't see it that way. She told me that if she ever finds out i'm dating a black guy she will send me to an all girls school in florida. I only have a 10 months until i can legally move out and i love bryan more than anything in this world i have no idea where i would be with out him! Please help me! what should i do.....my mom or my world.
a little more info on my family. i have always been the outcast and they have never wanted me
2007-01-22 05:52:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh and for those of you who seem to think that he doesn't love me and that we sleep together we don't the most we have done is kissed. we want to wait till marriage because then we will still have surprises left instead of giving it all away.
2007-01-22 06:17:37 · update #1
weellll, there is NO way to MAKE your parents accept Bryan. Take it slow and quiet for the next 10 months. It may seem like a long time now but compare that to a lifetime without him, I am sure you can sacrifice 10 mths for forever.
take this time to put things in place for yourself- finances, place to live, etc. you need a support system to see you through this because it will be hard to be disowned by your family... bryan, his family and your friends will play an important part in your making this decision and living with it. Just be as sure as you can- remember that nothing comes with guarantees, not even bryan. good luck.
2007-01-22 05:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're not going to like my answer, so come on people bring on all the thumbs down! LOL Don't ever choose a man over your family. I have an inkling that this is a kind of "rebellious" relationship because of the bad relationship you have with your family.....it's kind of like "look at me! I'm dating a black guy and there's nothing you can do about it!!" And I don't mean to burst your bubble, but I do have quite a few years on you and I can tell you from experience that "your world" is going to be around just long enough for somebody better to come around. I would be willing to bet my LIFE that he doesn't feel the same about you.
Want to test what I'm saying? Don't sleep with him for a month. He'll be gone.
2007-01-22 14:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends mom was like that and I always did things to help them be together. We used to say she was staying the night at my house and I would say I was staying at hers and we would stay out all night so she could kick it with her bf. You have to be careful and have your stories straight. I know it will suck but maybe only talk to him at school or have secret text messages. Even write letters back and forth so you will have something to do at night while you are thinking about him you can read how he feels about and vice versa. I know sneaking around is crazy and you could get caught but you only have 10 months and are you really ready to move out on your own. Just think about all of your options
2007-01-22 13:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are of legal age, then move out! However, think long and hard about moving in with your boyfriend, and make sure you don't have any children until you are financially stable and married!
2007-01-22 14:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i c wat u mean and this is why- i am balck and white and some of my black family don't like me bein wit white bois and some of my white family don't like me bein wit black boiz but this is how i c it follow ur heart and don't let nothin stand in the way if ur family can't accept u tha way u r then don't worri about it b/c God does and u got a boi tat loves u as u say so since u don't got long left to stay in tha house live ur life to the fullest meaning follow ur heart
2007-01-22 14:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by Cherri09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get your relationship with JESUS CHRIST right all your other relationships will work out right. I was also the out cast of my family and was told that I was an accident and not wanted. JESUS is now my best friend and HE"S always here whenever I need HIM.
2007-01-22 14:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by windwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to make a choice. Do what you want to do and find love and happiness for yourself, or always try to please your mom your whole life.
P.S.---You will never able to please her completely no matter how hard you try. So you will always end up failing and be miserable and she will constantly hound you until you are the person SHE wants you to be, not the person YOU are and want to be.
2007-01-22 13:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait 10 more months and do what u want to do.why so much fuss,have a cool mind.it will pass like 10 days and you will b free.
Goodluck.
2007-01-22 14:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by suneethprasanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what u feel
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2007-01-22 14:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋