2007-01-22 05:43:04 · 17 answers · asked by rethsae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Avoid marriage!!!
2007-01-22 05:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, always be very happy to see the other person. Put on a big smile and give him/her a long, hard hug and a long, good kiss. Smile again and then don't launch into all the negative things that need to be done. Give yourselves a few minutes to appreciate each other's company.
Second, treat each other the way you treat your friends.
You would never wig out and start screaming and yelling at your co-workers, so don't do that to your spouse. You wouldn't call your friends bad names, so don't do that to your spouse. If your friends were coming over, you would clean up a bit and try to look nice, so do that for your spouse. Try to keep the dating mentality of wanting to impress the other person, dress up for him, bring her surprises, say THANK YOU to each other, if the other person makes a mistake LET IT GO. Don't throw it in their face.
And last of all,,, Be FUN to live with. Be AWESOME to be around. Be funny, be in a good mood, laugh, give compliments all the time.
If you do these things, you will never get divorced.
2007-01-22 13:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by loves2fly84095 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know each other better before they get married. Many people don't talk about the option of children, how to raise them, how to discipline them, what type of school they will go to, will the wife work or will she stay home with the kids, which family to visit during holidays and how to alternate so everyone gets visited, etc. BEFORE marriage, people need to openly and honestly discuss these things. They also need to be aware of each others life goals and career paths they want to follow. Will one spouse work on-call or have to travel a lot, will the other be able to handle that time away, etc. I think if people took the time to really get to know each other before they got married, there wouldn't be as much divorce as there is now.
Once married, you just have to be honest with each other, remind yourself of your comittment and talk through problems. Marriage is about compromise, once side can't lead the way in all things, each has to give up a little to get the best result for the whole.
2007-01-22 13:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
comunication. dont live over your means..............trouble that ends in divorce a lot has to do with not how much you make but how much you spend keep the relationship hot not only sex but invest in your relationship kidness good times suprises moral suport get aways alone avoid contention and negative jealous people. respect each other always no matter what ect
2007-01-22 14:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by irene k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sheer will and determination. You need patience a whole lot , because you have to realize that this person come with their own set of right and wrong and so do you. you cannot change a person. they decide to change on their own.they've got freedom of speech and freedom to come and go as they please. all you can do is go back to the thing that initially excited you about this person in the first place. And make having a good love relation one of your goals. you can have a successful marriage. you just have to work at it like you would yourself,your career,etc.... don't give up pray or meditate.stay focused on bettering your existence thats all you can do.
2007-01-22 13:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by rasheda c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take each day at a time, truly enjoy, appreciate and respect each other - have a divinitive love - that means, hopefully you married the right person for the right reasons - and have faith and trust that things will work out. But it won't always be easy - marriage is hard work and both people have to contribute to it.
2007-01-22 13:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
counseling, working out problems, it's kind of vague because the problem behind the relationship is not given.
You can also either live separate lives, in the same house or in separate places, depends on the kids too, but if kids are involved divorce is the answer, you don't want the kids to see you living a lie. It will confuse them with their own marriage & love relationships.
2007-01-22 13:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by mscarlybobarlysmom 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you have children or can't seem to get any time together, thats what you need.
ALONE TIME.
It can make you realize why you fell in love with them in the first place, when there are no other distractions, no tv, no people, no kids, nothing but you and him.
Make love slowly. Take time to feel him and tell him during intercourse that you love him still and always.
2007-01-22 13:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by askaway 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what the most common cause of divorce is?
Marriage.
2007-01-22 19:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By marrying the right person in the first place.
2007-01-22 14:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋