how to let go......?

Question

my husband passed away 13 months ago, and i still cry and miss him just as much as i did the first day...we were together for 22 years and i dont know how to let go and start living again?

Answer 1

Dont let go! He is and always will be a part of you. Hold on to every single memory you ever made with him. Keep him in your heart and when your heart is ready you will know. With every end comes a new begining. But never let go of the past. It is who you are. It is o.k. to cry. You love him and always will. Cry when you need to and laugh when you need to and be angry when you need to! It ok to miss him. I would. Look at pictures. Never try to forget it will only mask your feelings. And NEVER take down your pictures of your life together. Good luck sweetie. You will be in my thoughts.

Answer 2

My aunts husband passed away like 7 or 8 years ago and she still crys and SHE REMARRIED. So hun your still in the grieving period. You will always miss him always love him he will ALWAYS be there in your heart NEVER let go of that. But as far as living again you are living hun, you were strong enough to live through such a sad loss. Things are really out of place for you right now im sure, but you had 22 years of his time, and im sure out of the 22 years you had many happy times think about them, then you'll cry tears of happiness and maybe feel better.

Answer 3

Pepsi I went through the same thing. It's been almost 2 years for me as well. I still cry too. But God placed someone else in my life. He understands what I'm going through and he's very supportive. You have to get some help and support. I even have my husbands ashes in an earn in my family room. I'm not spreading his ashes until I'm ready. You have to work, keep busy, don't resort to just crying or eating or any of those things that's going to hurt you in the long run. It's ok to morn your husband. Whether it be at work, home, outside in front of friends. Because you have to get that out! Pepsi you're going to feel this pain for a while. But you can't dwell on it or it will make you ill. Take baby steps. Don't rush to try and do everything at one time. You're emotional and if you even feel you need to talk to someone like a therapist, there is no shame in that either. I hope things work out for you. I wish you strength and happiness. Just try to be as strong as you can and if you feel one day you don't want to play with others, hell you don't have too! But don't stay away from others too long. Take care!

Answer 4

I am very sorry dear i lost my husband also,its hard. Get involved in church join a gym maybe a singles club where you can meet other people in the same situation..Get out in the world again I am sure he would want you to carry on.Cherish the memories.Start out slow go for coffee with a friend.I did this I still miss him but I am feeling better,I have met some wonderful new friends,God bless you.

Answer 5

I agree with Jane Doe, and only time will heal. Do you have children, or family members or good friends??? Support groups are good and you can meet new people, and many with the same issues. But please try and not dwell too much (I know its easy for me to say) on the past and always remember the good times, an dno matter what, I am more than sure your husband would want you to move foward ( not neccessarily with a partner), but spirtualty, and mentally, continue to remember the good times, and continue living. Good Luck anf God Bless, and please look into the groups or friends and family.

Answer 6

It's important that you attend a grief support group. Local churches and hospices offer them. Also, many of those places have workshops on grief. I would recommend that you see a counselor to help you move forward.

While you are grieving, it's helpful to concentrate on yourself. Find the things that make you happy--music, friends, comfort foods, funny movies, massagse--and do those things. Exercise is also important, walking is a good start.

Another good place to get started is in volunteer work. Check at a local church or city agency for volunteer work where you'll get out and be around others.

Remember when making friends that it's our sorrows and worries that bind us to others. Find others to share your feelings, probably in the support groups.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for your loss. What you are going through is natural, 22yrs is a long time but also 22yrs of happiness, more than most see in a life time. You need to get to a support group. It is like being sick, someone is always sicker than you and you can focus on the positives that you may not see at this time. 13months is past the grieving period, get out and be thankful for your life and health.

Answer 8

first i m sorry about your loss my 3rd husband passed away in 1996 and it hurts a lot but i think of him as a angel in heaven and that's what keep's me going cry much as you need too you'll greive for a long time and you'll alway's will miss him i also lost my mother when i was 18 year's old and i still miss her i'm 58 now one day we'll be with our loved one's and the lord i'll pray for you ask god to comfort you and pray

Answer 9

Wow, I'm so sorry for you. I think that you should go to a support group and talk to people who have gone through the same thing. You might find strength in new friendships.

Answer 10

This takes time. Do you belong to a CHURCH? Within a church community you can get comfort and some support. The loss of a spouse is very hard to deal with.