My Mother in law is abused by his husband since last 40 years. She is not financially independent and so she keeps on complaining about her problems to his son ( my husband ). They live in India and my mother in law wants to be here in USA and my father in law doesnt want to be in USA because we dont tolerate his behaviour. So, my mother in law emotionally narrates her strories to his son. Now, my husband is encouraging his Mother to live separate and he wants to pay for her survival like rent of a house, furniture, kitchen accessories, TV, Fridge, Microwave, Washer dryer etc. And also he wants to give some 300 USD every month for her living expence. By doing this she will get her home separate and then she can move back and forth between USA and India and we will be paying her travel, medical expence. I think if she want to live separate from her husband then she should take help of lawyer and should ask for support money. Her son or we family are not responsible for her maintaince.
2007-01-22 05:32:18 · 3 answers · asked by M J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are expecting and we recently got new house. my job is new and i work hard to save money and my husband just thinks of his mother. i dont mind in helping her but there is always a limit. Our priority should be new baby, not his Mom. She is her husband's responsibilty. If she is not happy, she should fight for her rights in court rather depending on our money.
2007-01-22 05:46:41 · update #1
It is every ones responsibility to get an abused person away from their abuser but you can only do so much, it is up to the abused to help themselves. I have family that are from India, they cannot all leave due to customs and/or government laws. She needs to leave now, settle the financial side and then come to the US, with funds allotted to her through the courts she will be able to support herself once she comes to you, your husband will still need to help her get settled in the US but the financial burden will not fall on you totally.
2007-01-22 05:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual in the US for children to help support their parents. This is a situation where many children would help. If possible, is there a family member that can go to India and work on getting support for her? That might avoid some of the issues. If she wants to live in the US, it might save money to move her here.
2007-01-22 05:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn that's cold. If I were your husband and my wife could not find more compassion for my abused mother, I think I'd be looking for a new wife. Also, learn to use the word her and his correctly.
2007-01-22 05:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by javelin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋