climax?
I work hard during sex... and I don't mind because I really enjoy it., and I love my wife.
But, I sometimes get frustrated because many times my wife can't come.
She says she really enjoys our physical relationship.
Do any of you have this type of experience? Any suggestions?
2007-01-22 05:26:40 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Often women are shy about telling you what they need. One thing to keep in mind is that rhythm is key. If you are starting or stopping too often you can break her concentration.
Also, you must be willing to stay on her. If you are using your hands and she say, moves, then move with her. Let her know that you are there for the duration.
For us sex begins in our heads. She needs your words as much as your body. She needs to feel safe in your arms. The room needs to be to her liking and she needs to know that she is dear to you and that you intend to help her with this.
It's not all on you. She is also responsible for her own enjoyment and orgasm. Have her guide you and if needed bring herself off while you watch. You will learn something, be entertained, and she will not be so frustrated. It takes some women awhile to get warmed up fully so if you are rushing in and trying to bring her off too quickly it WILL take forever. It's best to wait until she is almost begging for it before you start in. If you can hold off on touching her until she is grinding against you, taking your hand, then you can be sure she's more receptive.
Hope this helps even a little. I know it's hard, pal but hang in there. It's great that you even care so much as to ask.
2007-01-22 05:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sometimes I can and sometimes I can't. It just depends on so many things. Where my mind is, am I tired, was I the one who started it or did he?(If I did, I'm really ready to go,if I didn't my mind and body may not be into it, but doing it to please my husband) are the kids knocking at the door (like Sat. night!!!!) that kinda kills it, how long has it been since last time matters, is my husband into pleasing me or just pleasing himself? There are a lot of factors to consider. It is really great that she is being honest with you and not just faking it to make you feel good. You guys must have great communication and honesty, that's good. Yes, you most definitely can be very satisfied as a woman and not have an orgasm every single time. I have times where I will feel so satisfied and let out a big sigh of relief, but I don't know if that counts as an orgasm? But I am satisfied and content. Sometimes I get so much pleasure out of just pleasing my husband if we're in a hurry. It does take a little longer to climax for some women. I'm happy when he's happy. But the next time I will say, "it's my turn"!!I think you should believe her when she says she enjoys your physical relationship. My suggestion would be, there are 2 types of climax for women inside and outside, I know you know what I mean. Do you focus on one or the other or both? Ask her which she'd enjoy most or first. Get a toy if you've never got one to help out. Anyway, I hope this helps!
2007-01-22 06:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can climax, then that's what's important. If she can't everytime, then don't worry about it.
Just make sure that when she wants to climax, that she does. Sometimes, women are o.k. without the orgasm, and sometimes we need it very much.
Oral is the best for most women. Use your hands, mouth, toys, whatever turns her on.
Sometimes, role playing is good too. A new diversion with you may add a lot of spice.
Have fun.
2007-01-22 05:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say the same as most of the other woman on here, It's hard for me to come during intercourse. But always enjoyable!! I'm sure she's enjoying it as well. Oral is a good way to help. Does she ever, help herself? If so, ask her how she comes when she does, and learn from that. Some women can only have clitoral orgasims while others only g-spot or vaginal orgasims. Find out which one she is!
2007-01-22 05:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by "Red" 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not be becuase of you or your efforts. She may be thinking of other things like... paying the bills, are the kids going to hear etc.
If she says she enjoys your physical relationship, believe her. Not reaching climax is not necessarily the most important part of having sex...
2007-01-22 05:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a problem w/me. Can she climax on her own? That's a good start into her finding out what positions, motions, etc will get her to climax. Don't take it personal. If she can't even get herself to climax, why would she ever expect you to be able to?
2007-01-22 05:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lani 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you get frustrated a lot, maybe you are putting pressure of her to climax, so she is too stressed to climax. So, you need to remain calm and do what you know she likes.
2007-01-22 05:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me she is being honest. Not all women climax, some never do, it is something they don't always need to be fulfilled unlike a guy. Women find the loving, gentleness and caressing to be the highlights.
2007-01-22 05:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are a lot harder than men to make climax. Just concentrate on the things she says she likes. Have you tried introducing a vibrator or something like that? They work really well...
2007-01-22 05:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jess H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my husband is on top it is usually a no go on climaxing but quit ethe opposite when I am doing the work.
2007-01-22 05:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋