okay, my b/f asks me to lunch, he is at court w/ his teenage son, I am at work, I say "oh you and your son spend lunch together, as a thoughtful suggestion, thinking his son will want some quality time with dad, after dealing with court, and he texts me back and says "thanks for telling me what to do, if you didn't want to spend time with me just say so"
hello? am I crazy?
2007-01-22 05:24:43 · 14 answers · asked by Cute Stuff 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Clearly he responded based on his assumption rather than checking out his assumption and then the wouldn't have had to respond the way he did.
I suppose if he acts in this manner all the time, and you don't like it, then this way of his might be a deal breaker.
You were just trying to be considerate.... good for you.
2007-01-22 05:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the inherent problem with using texting as a communication method. Outside of asking some one to pick up a gallon of milk on their way to the store or to say "have a nice day" texting eliminates tone.
My wife and I ran into this as well and ultimately agreed to stop using text, email or IM as a means to communicate. We simply just call the person so tone and intent is not misunderstood.
Your example is just that, an example of how texting is a bad communication method. You'll run into this 100 more times with 100 more examples, the bigger problem is to just not use that communication method so your b/f can hear that you think it would be a nice opportunity for the 2 of them to spend some quality time and not have to read your mind from a short text message.
Good luck.
2007-01-22 05:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by pico_pica81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all, maybe he had a bad time in court. you should ask what is wrong and clarify that its not that you don't want to spend time with him but that you thought him and his son could use the alone time. GL!!!
2007-01-22 05:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have been a little stressed out from going to court with is son...but that was a bit of a harsh response.
2007-01-22 05:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy. Sounds as if your bf had a bad day and took it out on you. Talk to him about this. Ask if out to lunch next time. Stay sane LOL!
2007-01-22 08:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
text back, i thought you might like to spend some quality time with your son, thats all, maybe we can have dinner tonight ( crazy psyco, no just kidding dont put that )
2007-01-22 05:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
court is a stressful time, i would imagine it would be even more stressful when its your child in court, he's probably just stressed out and not trying to take it out on you, maybe you could suggest a nice dinner tonight and smooth things over!
2007-01-22 05:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy. I thik he is frustraded with his son and the court situation and you got the brunt of his frustration
2007-01-22 05:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He would not have asked you if you did not want to go. By answering the way you did, it seemed like you were blowing him off. His response may have been a little exaggerated, but I understand.
2007-01-22 05:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why he's your boyfriend and not your husband, thankfully. What a jerk. He's got some issues. Expect it to get worse, unless you guys communicate, FACE TO FACE.
2007-01-22 05:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋