Hi. I live in a house with my brother, his girl, and her daughter. Everything was fine but me an my brother's girl got real close. It's like we can talk to eachother about all kinds of things, and it is really nice to know someone like that. Anyway, my brother got jealous and assumed that she and I were sleeping together, which we aren't. He recently moved out, knowing that we depended on his third of the rent to maintain this place, and it is because of him I am in this predicament because he asked me to take the place with him. Meanwhile, we are struggling here and he is living the life of Riley and I am not talking to him. Some people say that I should move out, since she is not my girl and all but if I left, then she and her daughter will be on the street, and I'm not the kind of person that would just bail and leave someone in a bad predicament, because they have never done any wrong to me. Any suggestions?
2007-01-22 05:08:02 · 15 answers · asked by trevor_laforce 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's a tough situation to be in. Talk to your brother and tell him how you feel. Tell him that just because you two can talk to each other, doesn't mean that you are sleeping with her. If he can't make amends, then he is being pretty immature. I would try to stay and make ends meet until she can afford to move someplace more affordable. I think it's really nice of you to be concerned for her and her daughter. Since you two get along so well, maybe there is a possibility of you two hooking up. Maybe your brother doesn't know what he had.
2007-01-22 05:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your brother should sit down calmy first and talk things out. Get everything out in the open and explain to him that nothing is going on. Once you guys are better, then you can bring the girl into the convo. Blood is thicker than water. And if your brother and the girl end up working things out, try to keep your distance from her for the sake of your relationship with your bro. Hopefully, in time you all can get along. But for now, work on building your relationship with your brother.
2007-01-22 05:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't really say. I don't know why your brother and you would let a girl come between the two of you. It seems like your brother has some growing up to do. I can only suggest put the word out for a new roommate ASAP.
2007-01-22 05:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jerrie's Daddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...u are in a bind! your brother made a very huge assumption, that is not taking a toll on you and that girl...first off ur brother has no true facts that the two of you are sleeping with each other...what he should have been worried about is whether or not you guys would become cool enough to get along with in this living arrangement! the apartment is in whos' name?? did you guys receive separate leases?? how does the girl feel about just living with you? you are taking on alot of responsibilities just out of the blue, and i know you are not ready to commit to this...if you are struggling that hard, maybe you should consider moving out, you did not ask to take care of this girl and her child..on secondhand, i see where you are coming from, and you dont want her and the child just out on the streets..but does she have anywhere else to go besides living there? and as far as your brother is concerned....he is bogus..yes, but he is ur brother, and he should not let jealousy and bad thoughts come between his blood...try and talk to him again, see where he wants the relationship between you two to go....i hope i have helped
2007-01-22 05:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by wolvie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This wouldn't solve the problem straight off, but you could dedicate some time to look for a house mate rapidly. Evidently, your brother isn't a gentleman and has left his woman in a predicament. i suggest move on and find someone to fill his spot. check the link and good luck.
2007-01-22 05:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Graycode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to fill his spot with a roommate as soon as possible, or get some assistance even if it is just to catch up for one month of rent. Next, decide if you want to stay or stick around with the girl and her daughter. You are not in over your head yet. Make things happen.
2007-01-22 05:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by RunsWithKnife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The situation you are in is a tough one. i think you should stay living with this girl but don't expect more out of it than what you have already. when you can talk to someone about things and they understand and not just listen, its an awesome ally in life because of the understanding you have. obviously your relationship with your brother is important though. i suggest you try explaining to him straight out how things are....
that's all i got for ya.
2007-01-22 05:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by JC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for being a real human being to others. Getting another roommate is a good idea. Why should you all uproot your lives because of one. Hopefully you can work it out with your brother. Blood is thicker than water. Maybe he will understand eventually that nothing was going on......
2007-01-22 05:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by ritif81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a toughfy! I would say **** him, he needs to get over his high and mighty self and realize you'd never do that to him, Id also step down on being so close with his girl cause it will lead to potential problems..Don't move out try to talk to your brother and make immense. if he doesn't want to you were the bigger person and hell never get over it , and if thats the case well your being the better person and you did your best
2007-01-22 05:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by chkn_fur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your brother is using his jealousy as an excuse to bail on his "girl" and her daughter. This way he can feel that it's your fault instead of his issue. That seems a little un-manly of him to do.
2007-01-22 05:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by Vivian D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋