Why do I only want things when I can't have them, yet when I have them, I am unhappy?

Question

please help?

Answer 1

Happiness comes from the consciousness of being loved. And things cannot make you happy because things cannot love you.

A loving dog will make you a lot more happy and the latest iPod.

Wanting to have things is a part of Western culture that is being constantly reinforced with commercial advertisements on TV, on the internet, and on billboards. With this constant propaganda designed to make things attractive and desirable for people, few people can resist wanting things.

Advertisments often hint and suggest that buying things will make you happy. But things are not living beings. They cannot love anyone. And that's why buying things cannot make people happy.

Answer 2

I think a lot of us are the same way, and that's why so many people get obsessed with gaining material possessions- they always want 'more' than what they already have. They're trying to fill a void in their life that really isn't there. When I start feeling like that, I have to consciously try to think of all the good things I have in my life, and think of how fortunate I am. Then I don't feel like I need 'more'.

Answer 3

common sense, your either greedy or you want to have what no one else has. Or be the first on the block to have it.
Or you are just selfish. but common sense will tell you, that what you think you want you find its not all that important, once you get it. common sense simply say you are to self-centered and are selfish, and spoiled.
you need to figure out what is more important in you life. you may also find you just want to brag about what you got. And make everyone else feel bad.
Because you probably think the more you have ,the more friends you will have, and of course, you wil also find no one cares any more.. and you end up alone with your stuff and no friends to share.
But mostly, you will find once the stuff is gone ,then you have nothing left to brag about. And once you grow out of it. you will see how worthless they were. That is once you decide to grow up.

Answer 4

Well i don't know what things you want to have. however in most cases you feel guilty of having them. that is why when you have those things you are usually unhappy about it. you know what i am saying?

Answer 5

I know this answer will be unpopular, but it seems to be a female trait.

There is an old joke:
What does every woman want?
What another woman has.

The only help is maturity. Learn that what you think you want out of jealousy is not what you REALLY want.

Answer 6

You're human and normal. Most of us are like this. Don't sweat it. Only go after things that you really want. If you decide that you don't want it afterwards, find someone to give it to. That will make you like a hero in someone's eyes.

Answer 7

As humans, we are never satisfied.

Whenever we want something, its usually not something we need, therefor making the object a non-priority which brings us to feeling unsatisfied when we finally obtain it.

Try to only get things you need right now. It'll make you feel better.

Answer 8

This is a great question.
Material "things" can only satisfy us to a certain point.
What you are looking for can not be found anywhere in the world.
Your inner peace can only be found within.

Answer 9

For some reason, things seem more interesting when they're not ours. But then once we have them and play with them, they become boring and used. Idk. I used to think this way back in my teenage years.

Answer 10

i think it is because you know that you cant have something and that makes you want it but when you finally get you know that you can have it and you dont want it anymore