I have a 3 year old stepdaughter and I want her to have the best relationship with me as possible, I dont want to replace her mother of course but is there any way that we can stay close to me as she gets older? she loves me now and we are very very close but i am so scared that whenever she gets older she is going to resint me... her mother and father were never together it was a one night stand and her father and I have been together for 5 months before she was even born she also has a stepdad but i know if i was her i always wanted my parents to be together , i have had 2 stepmoms and i never felt like they could replace my mom but they both treated me badly and never really liked them i dont want to treat her any different than i will treat my own kids, i dont see how i could love any child as much as i love her but im just scared that i will have a better bond with them and she will be able to tell?!?...and i want to stay as close with her as i am now forever.is it possible?
2007-01-22 05:06:42 · 7 answers · asked by sally 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk with her when she gets a little older. Tell her you don't want to replace her mother but you just want to have a good relationship with her. Tell her you love her. Just tell her how you feel...do this when she is older of course. But don't smother her. And to grow closer, just show her that you love her and your there for her. Take her places. Like to the zoo or to a park. It's the little things that make people grow closer so don't go all out. Do arts and crafts together...draw, paint, write.
2007-01-22 05:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by rach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to not worry about that, all you can do is love her and treat her fair and honest. Never get caught in the mother competition and don't ever bash her mother, just be yourself. She has obviously grown up knowing you all her life so far and as long as she knows you are true and genuine, regardless of what phase she may go through, she will always know there is love and support there. Just be careful that you do not allow her to use the fear of the relationship going bad to run all over you, be stable and consistent and it will work out just fine...
2007-01-22 05:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possible and probable... remember she has NEVER had mom and dad together !!! but also remember that relationships go thru seasons...... there will be ugly and bad times, I pray not, but, it does happen, even with natural kids and parents, it is all part of growing up.... just make sure you still make time for the 2 of you when the other kids start to come along.... she will need you more then than now.... she will need to be reassured that she is still a part of YOU and that you still feel the love for her.... start a memory book with her, tracking the life together you 2 have and will have, start now and keep a LOVE record..... take pics of the things you do together over the years, a special book just for her...... and write love letters for her to read when she is grown up.......... make your love known !!!!!!!!!! God bless
2007-01-22 05:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just play with her don't forget her on holidays have a room for her at your house call to talk to her when she at her moms let her know you love her when shes over take her some where by yourself and spend time with her the park grocery shopping the movies that should work when you have kids include her when you can with taking care of the baby and going to movies etc....
2007-01-22 05:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on loving her the rest will fall into place.
2007-01-22 05:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be good friends with her mother,never bad mouth her mothers good name and dont buy her love.
2007-01-22 05:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do what u feel
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2007-01-22 05:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋