2007-01-22 04:42:01 · 8 answers · asked by auburnfan2172000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My fiance's daughter called me Christmas morning to let me know he had passed away during the evening.. he was more than my best friend he was my everything. I have talked to other widow's who understand having lost someone who is in your life this way. the greiving process is not the same as losing a parent, child, or a mutual friend. As well as the healing process being different. I have had people tell me that to get on with life, he is gone, or some wonder whyI am still upset over losing this person, who I shared everything. How can you get someone to understand it is not as easy to move on as they think you should?
2007-01-22 05:02:26 · update #1
I personally think that no one else needs an explanation on how you feel about him. You will know when it is time to move on...go at your own pace, dont let anyone push you. Take the time to remember him the way you want to. Blessings..and good luck!
2007-01-22 05:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by LuLu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with the first answerer on this. If would care to give more details, I promise I will come back and try to answer your question. We're not prying....just trying to help.
If this is a personal question, please accept my condolences.
#Edit# I am really sorry for your loss. Anybody who has ever been in a close relationship ought to understand the difference.
You are probably emtionally and financially interdependent on a spouse or fiance far more so than a family member of friend. There is the loss of your hopes and dreams for the future, the loss of companionship and the physical side of the relationship. There are so many differences it is difficult to see why nobody understands.
I truly hope you find a sympathetic ear soon and that in time your pain will fade a little. Best wishes.
2007-01-22 04:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by lou b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never gone through losing someone, but i cant imagine the pain. Every death is different, like losing a child is nothing like losing a spouse and so on and so forth. You do need to get on with your life, but grieving from them is not wrong either.
2007-01-29 09:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by some_slow_person 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the future you were planning and the security you used to feel having that person around that you miss the most. You have this empty spot where you don't want to replace that person but you don't want to be alone. Then you have to deal with the uncertainty of the future. Will you date? How will that go? Will they like you? Will you like them? Then there's that whole identity crisis thing and what to do with your life without your mate.
2007-01-29 07:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A spouse is a family member....and would'nt ya like to think that your spouse or fiance was also your best friend .
2007-01-22 04:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by sea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A family member is of your flesh and blood and no one can ever replace them. The same cannot be said about anyone else.
2007-01-22 04:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who are you trying to explain this to and why do they require an explanation?
2007-01-22 04:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to explain. even a mere thought shakes my heart. may god never ever do this to anybody. amen
sorry no words
2007-01-29 23:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by v_adaniya2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋