She is young enough to be our daughter and we love her very much and have always treated her as a daughter. But they both have acted "lovey-dovey" towards each other lately and it has made me wonder what is going on. He is impotent so I'm not worried about that, but it worries me about where his heart is and his faithfulness to me. It breaks my heart when I see him respond to her and not to me and when I see them sitting together on the couch when it isn't necessary. I've spoken to both of them in private about it but it hasn't helped at all. I've even had people whom I trust tell me that they've seen them kissing and hugging. He always takes her home by himself. I am disabled and not able to always go everywhere with him so he invites her to go with him instead of taking me. I'm at the end of my rope and just don't know what to do anymore. Please someone give me some idea of what I should do or say!!!
2007-01-22 04:40:40 · 19 answers · asked by sweet_and_salty_2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GET OUT! (say that)
2007-01-22 05:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by serenitykay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is an affair going on. Talk your husband and the girls together. Demand the truth no matter how much it hurts. You deserve to the know the truth. Then you can make your decision as to what to do. A young woman will always turn on the married man, because some men don't believe they can have a young woman. But it is infatuation, it's not love. Let him know how you feel. Make sure that the young friend is around and then get rid of her for good. You don't needs friends like that in your life. Best wishes
2007-01-22 12:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you, especially since you are disabled and can not do a whole lot. This whole thing smells very bad. The only good thing about him being impotent is that he will not get her pregnant. If they are flaunting this in front of you it makes it even worse. As you say you have spoken to them both to no avail, that tells me what kind of people you are dealing with.
At this point I don't see how you are going to stop it but you can stop things going on in your own home. Sorry, but it is time to ban her from your house. It sounds like they are going to do what they want anyway but it does not have to be in front of you. You say she is young enough to be your Daughter, shame on both of them. Maybe for now you can relish in the thought that she will move on to friends her own age and he will be left flat, Boy,that is the time to NOT forgive, Make his life hell. You don't say how you are disabled and to what extent it affects you. Go join a support group for others like you, it will give you a great deal of comfort as you are not alone. God Bless.
2007-01-22 12:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, you poor thing. I would talk to the girl and make her go on a major guilt trip if I were you. Make her listen, stress that he is way too old for her, not to mention MARRIED and that this is SO not okay with you. If nothing happens, talk to your husband, and tell him that he's hurting you and furthermore her age makes it totally inappropriate. I hope everything works out!
2007-01-22 12:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell this woman to stay away from your home and tell your husband under no uncertain terms should he be continuing his "friendship" with her. Seems as if she is stepping over a line and being disrespectful of you. If your husband cannot abide by this then you need to leave him, because if he has ot cheated yet it sounds as if he is heading there.
2007-01-22 12:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would put my foot down. If need be, I would tell her she is no longer welcome in your home. And definitely no alone time for them. Sometimes, the worst kinda cheating is the emotional kind. So even if there is not intercourse, it still hurts, if not more. I would tell my hubby he has to choose, and even if it's not you, at least you've gotten rid of two inexcusably rotten people. Good luck to you. Whatever you decide to do. :(
2007-01-22 12:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they are having an affair to me. If your husband isn't willing to stop his relationship (whether its an affair or not) then there's your answer to his faithfulness. If you are not comfortable with his relationship with a women, then he needs to end that relationship.
2007-01-22 13:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by aobluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is definitely disrespecting you, what a horrible horrible thing to witness and be a part of. He is probably having relations with her, she is feeding his ego, and men like that.
I noticed everyone says, kick him out, blah blah blah, well my advice is to talk to him, about how he is making you feel, how hurt you are and what it looks like to you and everyone else. Give him a chance to confirm, to deny, to explain, or plead for your forgiveness. You need to communicate with him everything. I pray things will work out for you! Good luck!
2007-01-22 12:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your young friend young enough to be a legal issue for your husband?
2007-01-22 12:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAve another talk with them together. Let them know you feel very disrespected and problem solve the issues together.
2007-01-22 12:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is having an affair, he not impotent with her
2007-01-22 12:59:38 · answer #11 · answered by manfromblueriver 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋