I feel like i could cry!?

Question

First off, if you're gong to be immature and put me down then just don't say anything. I feel like i could cry and break down! over stupid things. I'm not saying everyone does it but alot of people do and won't admit it. Sure, i pick my nose and put it places, i scratch my butt and sometimes get a little stain. I never knew you were supposed to wash your butt til i was 16-17 but it wasn't that bad because i'm not a nasty person. When i was younger, after going to the bathroom i didn't wipe myself at all but kids go through that and i obviously do now. When i was like 14-15 i scratched my head and i had dandruff and i liked doing it and i would put it in like a little pile lol. I am not a nasty person. Dandruff is easy to get. I pick at things on my face or whatever. I used to not brush my teeth good and not every day which kids and teens tend to do that i guess. but i want to change that now. Sometimes i find things to pick. Is all this normal? I feel like i have to tell every guy i am with because i keep obsessing over if they knew then they wouldn't want to be with me.

I'm 17 now

Answer 1

I would have to say that you have already partly answered your own question: "I'm not saying everyone does it but a lot of people do and won't admit it."

You already know that you are not the only person who has ever done these things. The problem is, you're obsessing about it, and that's not helpful. You definitely do not need to tell every guy you meet that you worry about these concerns. What you are doing by telling him is setting yourself up to fail. Then when the boy is no longer interested in you you can tell yourself. "Well its because I have those habits that he doesn't like me". I'll bet you are afraid to let anyone get close to you, close enough to love you faults and all.

Think of married couples, do you think they do not know each other's faults perfectly? Think they don't see stained underwear when they are doing laundry? Or notice each other picking at their nose or scabs? And parents notice these things in their children as well. Its the job of the parent to try to teach the child proper manners (such as don't do these things in public) so of course they have to notice them!

You need to take a deep breath and realize that you are reacting as a typical teenager. Its a pattern of thinking that all youngsters have in which they think that everyone is watching and judging them at all times, when the truth is, that because each of them are doing it to themselves all the time they rarely notice things about each other. They are much too preoccupied with themselves.

No one will like you more or less if you have some issues you are trying to correct; they will only change their opinion of you if you are obsessed about it or talk about it a lot. Do yourself a favor and realize that you are ok just as you are, love yourself and then others will too.

Answer 2

First off your normal. Second, don't hide anything from any guy. Too bad if they don't like or don't what to understand it. Now if you feel the need to change. Then do it. There is help out there.
Don't be so hard on yourself. And keep in mind you are not alone with this ok? Do you think they (guys) should tell you what they pick at when your not around? The dandruff thing is so easy to fix as well. And brushing teeth is very important not only for white teeth and nice breath. If you still have all your teeth, take care of them. But all in all its up to you if you want to change. I think you can do this if you want. Good luck on the choices you make.
Take care.

Answer 3

It's not easy to change, especially the older you get, but it is possible. One day at a time. Things that we do regularly, sometimes without consciousness of it (habits) are especially hard, but i think if you used a simple method and started off very small you could do it. For example, when i was fifteen, I wanted my skin to be more moisturized, be smoother and softer, like the other girls' skin were. While other people had already made it a routine to lotion and take care of their skin, lotioning and wearing sunscreen wasn't something i did. So, whenever i could make myself remember to lotion my legs when i got out of the tub, i would. As soon as i lotioned my legs well of course i realized my arms, back, stomach, and shoulders needed moister too. But i began small, I wouldn't always remember. I'd leave the bottle on the nightstand to remind me. But don't be so hard on yourself. Give yourself a break and let these new habits wear on you. Find out what you like about doing the new habit that will encourage you to want to do it more. So that you could even be looking forward to it at the end of the day. I.e. taking a long bath when you get in from school or i liked how good the lotion made my skin feel; refreshed. One small step at a time is the key. Good luck! But I'm sure you'll get it if you want to.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you have a bit of an obsessive/compulsive habit going with the picking and collection of things in a pile. I don't recommend you tell EVERY guy you see about it RIGHT off the bat. They may think you are a little fruity. You may want to try talking to someone, counselor or something like that.

As far as brushing your teeth and keeping clean with you use the toilet, use some common sense. I mean, do you REALLY want bodily waste hanging around down there all day??? EWWWWWW!

Answer 5

How old are you now? I guess that stuff isn't too bad as long as you,ve started to go the opposite way and fix some of those. I wouldn't worry about obsessing over them though as long as you've fixed them I wouldn't consider it an issue.

Answer 6

Obsessive compulsions relating to placement in to piles is common for OCD, the lack of understanding or knowledge regarding cleanliness and hygiene can be a result of lack of education and environmental influences. Please see a doctor to receive more comprehensive diagnoses.

Answer 7

You just have to make a conscious effort to not do those things. Try working on one thing at a time. Eventually, it will become second nature. It just takes practice. We talk about "practicing good hygiene" because that is exactly what we are doing - practicing.

Answer 8

You are certainly normal!! But the feeling that you should share this info with guys that you go out with has to stop. There's no reason to tell on yourself. You have to let yourself have some privacy. We all do things that we wouldn't want anyone to see us do, and if anyone tells you they don't, they are lying to you!!!!!
Trust Me!!! You are a human being and we do things that don't need to be important to anyone, not even ourselves. Be proud that you taught yourself to be clean all alone!!! Sounds like you raised yourself. Therefore, KEEP TAKING CARE OF YOU!!!!

This anxiety that you feel is the problem I wish you could get over. But that's easy for ME to say now ISN"T IT?? Someone in your life probably made you feel guilty and so you "pick" at yourself in your thoughts.

Consider yourself as someone you take care of by what you tell yourself. Be your OWN mother or maybe a nurse would feel better. Or make it the Jolly Green Giant for all the world to give a care!!! Whatever image you like, make that Yourself. Follow me?

Say things like this to yourself: "I am normal and everybody else seems to act like they have no habits or practices that are embarrassing or private just exactly like the ones I do. Now stop worrying about me. And don't call me a nasty person because I am no more nasty than any other human being." Take CARE of yourself. You know more about how you need to be handled than a whole truckload of extra heavy duty psyciatrists!!

See? Take care of yourself so YOU will be your OWN best friend.
And you can say "Stop telling me I should tell the guys I go out with all the stuff I do, because that would gross them out!! So shut up!!" They hide their gross habits too!!! Am I making any sense to you Honey?

I will "confess" to YOU now. I never can leave a scab alone. I just can't!!! It bothers me and I mess around with it until I pull it off. My mother used to tell me not to pull them off or I would have a scar. But I do it anyway. It's MY scab!!! After THAT, it's no one's business if I stick it in my ear or in my rear, but I DO and so does everybody else with that particular habit or their own private and personal habits.

Take care of yourself, Sugar. You sound like a wonderful girl to me, so sweet and honest. Whoever made you feel guilty can kiss your rosy red underpants!!!! Got that????? I'm betting my money on you that you will be all right starting as soon as something like this------or someone else's answer------starts seeping in and replaces those thoughts that you are bad or nasty.
And I have to say this: SHAME ON THE PERSON/PEOPLE WHO MADE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF whether it was a parent, teacher, neighbor, or whomever!!! Now go live your life and hold your head up because this world is big enough for you (you dandruff piler you) and for me (a scab picker) and if they want to be phony, that's fine. But we know better now, don't we??? YES WE DO!!! KISS BOTH OUR ROSY RED UNDERPANTS!!!!!! Am I getting through to you Honey, or am I just blowing in the wind?? If you think I'm crazy then just move along. If you feel any better, make some notes about what I'm trying to tell you.

AND just one more thing. Stop telling anyone things about your personal habits. It makes them think about themselves!!!!!
AND THAT'S THE TRUTH, AND GOD KNOWS IT TOO!!!!!!

Good Luck Kiddo!!! Lots of Love!!! @8-)

Answer 9

You didn't know any better, but now you do........so work on stopping them bad habits. There is no need to tell anyone such things. By doing so, they will probably think there is something wrong with you when what it sounds to me is that you didn't have proper upbringing.