My boyfriend, whom I am breaking up with, has just informed me that he is addicted to injecting oxycotin. He claims that this is the reason for the problems in our relationship. He said he will go to rehab and get help if I will stay with him. I do not love him, but I care about him and would like to see him get help. I have searched the internet for information, and it is all very medical and clinical. Has anyone had any dealing with this type of issue?
2007-01-22 04:18:50 · 4 answers · asked by happygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Whether you stay with him (which you shouldn't) or not should not be hung on your shoulders for the push he needs to get help.
This is not your responsibility and you will become his enabler if you stay with him.
He is using emotional blackmail making you believe "if you stay we can lick this together" attitude.
You have nothing to get over , he does.
He will have to make choices to get help because of him not you.
This is very unhealthy.
You need to get away from him and now.
You don't know if he is using dirty needles,. you could get Hepatitis from him.
I know you care , but if you do, you need to walk away and let him do this one on HIS own.
You can get dragged into something horrific if you stay because you feel sorry.
That is totally the wrong reason to be at someone's side.
He will use you and abuse you and you will be his dormat.
He will hurt you emotionally and you will ride a roller coaster if you stay for any reason.
This is your opportunity to get out, take it and go. Look for a strong and healthy person to be in your life.
You can't fix this guys boo boo, cause he doesn't want to fix it .
He is conning you and just wants you to stay....for his own selfish reasons.
Run in the other direction , now.....
2007-01-22 04:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's probably more addicting than heroine. He's in for a real hard time if tries to kick it. I know a guy who was prescribed Oxcy foa a back problem six years ago. He's still addicted to it to this day. If you don't love him just leave and be done with it. You do not need to get dragged in to this unless you have a vested interest.
2007-01-22 04:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a typical thing for those addicted. It's like asking for their cake and eat it too. I'd tell him to successfully complete rehab first and then you'll decide and not until then.
By the time he complete's rehab and you don't contact him while he's going through it, he'll have gotten over you and you'll have moved on.
Don't fall for his promises, move on with your life. You don't need this guy and his addiction hanging around your neck.
2007-01-22 04:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you as an excuse ! ie he'll go to rehab if you stay with him . Don't believe it ! He has more problems than just his drug abuse and you can't help him ! He has to want to do this for himself or it will never happen . That may mean you will have to stand to one side and watch him hit bottom . It's not easy and it's not pretty to watch but it's something you will have to do . If he has family and they are unaware of his problems contact them and let them know whats going on , they might be able to do an intervention with a professional . Let him know how you feel and tell him he needs to get help . I'm a widower with three daughters that I raised by myself after my wife , their mother , died from a drug problem . Hope this helps good luck . P.S. Get in contact with your local chapter of Alanon it,s for family and friends of people with drug and alcohol problems , they will be happy to get you literature to help you understand his problem .
2007-01-22 04:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by grizz1813 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋