I just accepted my fiance's purposal a few weeks back we've been 2gether for quite sometime now. We're both 20 and we fully capable and secure to get married. Please don't judge by age because not every 1 is immature. But i want to hear from other people in my scenario...like how did u get married (formal or city hall) any tips that a new wife should know about military??? thank you!!
2007-01-22 04:16:11 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I am a military wife and I am about to turn 21. I got married when I was 19. We got married at City Hall and later on like our 5 year mark or something special (maybe when they come back from deployment) you can have a real wedding. My hubby is about to get out of the Navy and I am going into the Air Force myself. After I finish bootcamp and A-School (training for your job right out of bootcamp) we are gonna have a real wedding just to renew our vows. All you can do is support one another and dont get caught up with the wrong group of military wives, fiances, etc. There are some out there where as soon their man gets deployed they go to the Enlisted Clubs, etc and try to pick up a new man and when their man comes back they act like something happened. Times can be stressful and lonely but you can handle it. Military spouses are the strongest people out here next to the actually military people. If he gets stationed overseas, go for it. Most people love it and plus it is a great experience for the both of you. If he can go to Japan or Germany, so do it.
2007-01-22 04:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by luvmysexysailor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a military wife sucks. You will be alone alot and far from home. You have to be willing to move where ever the government wants you at the drop of a hat and be prepared for him to get hardship assignments that you are not allowed to accompany him on. I was married to an Airman for 8 years and it was the worst time of my life. I dont care what they tell you, the military does not give a rats behind about the family of its members. They do what is best for the service and your feelings are the least of their concerns. My husband almost missed the birth of our son (he was there for the last 20 minutes of it) and had to return to duty the next day.
Your best friend will be the wives clubs, if you are the social type. They are in the same boat as you and at least understand what you are going through. There is also an unspoken rule that you can cheat when he is away. He will be doing it too-just dont ask, dont tell. If I were you, I would wait until his tour is up. IF you guys truely love each other and want to be together, it will still be that way in a few years. Dont jump into this lifestyle just to keep him in your life.
2007-01-22 12:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by rebel g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I misread your question as coming from your man. It all applies though. Adapt, Adjust, Enjoy the experiences. While we didn't have a lot of money it was some of the best times in our lives and we'd do it again. Most bases have spouse support groups. Seek those out if you need to.
Military is very tough on marriages. As a rule the AirForce personel don't seem to have to deal with deployment seperation as much but it is definately a lifestyle change, money, moving etc. She needs to be patient and adaptable able to live away from family for extended periods. She also needs to accept that the military is your job for now and she will need to accept that you do what they tell you to do when they tell you to do it. I spent some time in the military when I was first married. 23 years later I am still married. You can make it work but both need to be flexible and able to adapt. You need to be sure you are marrying each other because you love each other. If that is really true, none of the other stuff will matter.
2007-01-22 12:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by father of 4 husband of 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations! My brother is in the U.S Air Force, and he married his wife when they were 20, right before he was sent to his base. Military life is different from living a 9 to 5. My brother and his wife have traveled all around the states, and they now reside in Germany. I think it will be an intersting experience for you and your fiancee'. You will see and go places many people would Love to see! But you'll probably have to get used to it. There are many financial benefits for you, if you marry him. Not only will he get benefits you will too... like education, housing, and all that good stuff! Good Luck to ya girl
2007-01-22 12:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋