My neighbour was taken into hospital as an emergency, operated on and is now several days later asking for her grown up children to come and they still haven't appeared. (They know she is in hospital I told them) Should I phone them and tell them off or is it none of my business.
2007-01-22 04:04:30 · 17 answers · asked by mother sensible 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They know its bad because I told them I went with my neighbour in the ambulance because I made the 999 call. She is still so bad she can't take phone calls yet.
2007-01-22 07:14:09 · update #1
I would suggest that if you know this family well and the adult children then it would certainly not be out of the way for you to call them. If they are that selfish or uncaring for their mother's welfare you might be able to remind them of her importance in raising them and helping them become the adults they are today. But if you do not know them that well then it probably would be best if you just kept your nose out of it. Very, very sad situation and hopefully they respect your opinion and act on it if you do contact them. Best of luck in deciding what to do.
2007-01-22 04:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have met the grown up children it wouldn't hurt to call and see if they had heard that their mother had been in hospital sometimes the grapevine breaks down and people don't get the information they need and all you would be is a caring neighbour
2007-01-22 04:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by vikki f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not your place unless you have long history with them...but a friendly call to check on them seems proper..you might say you are reporting on their mothers' condition and as a part of the report mention she wishes to hear from them and give her hospital room phone number and ask them to call her themselves.
Then she can ask why they haven't come to see her yet.
2007-01-22 04:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the children, have you met them before if so then it may be worth giving them a call to say your updating them on her progress then you could gently enquire if they would be coming to visit at any time, if you havent met them i wouldnt get involved you dont know what their relationship is like or what goes on behind closed doors they may have a very valid reason for not being able to attend.
2007-01-22 04:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by Joanne A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I'd phone them just informing them that their mother wants them (don't judge them or criticise them) If they still don't come the only thing you can do it to be as supportive as possible to your neighbour and don't criticise her kids in front of her as this would only hurt her more.
2007-01-22 04:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's your buisness to put yourself in the middle of it. What I would do is go up and visit her yourself. You can't take the place of her children, but you can help make her feel better. Make time to go and visit her everyday. When someone is in that situation, they just want someone to be ther for them, and they want to know that someone cares. So go visit her and try to cheer her up, every little bit helps.
2007-01-22 04:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would phone them and just say thought I'd let you know how your mum is doing just be nice otherwise they may tell you where to go you must be friendly with the mum to go visit her so good for you
2007-01-22 04:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't phone them to tell them off, but I would phone them with a 'progress report' and let them know she was asking for them.
2007-01-22 04:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by RM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know them,,then yer tell them but if you don't know them very well,then maybe not because you'll be know as an interfering neighbour
2007-01-22 04:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by kimble 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its none of your business keep your thoughts to your self the ones involved are adults and are responsible for themselves,if they are at work visiting family come second place,they have good commitment and wise
2007-01-22 05:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by angie n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋