I will be going through a custody evaluation (with a professional evaluator) and I am just wondering what goes on, what they look for, what to expect and any other infomation. I just want to be prepared and find out what the pros won't tell me. Thanks so much eveyone.
2007-01-22 04:00:34 · 5 answers · asked by NolaDawn 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Been there too! I survived and still have my kids! You are lucky you are expecting it, mine came unnanounced and barged in and started questioning everybody. (I am still unsure of why they ever came to house in the first place because all of their "information" was wrong like my adress etc.)
The one I had questioned the day care workers, my family, and my friends. They took my kids seperately and questioned them. It was a humiliating but humbling experience. It made me appreciate my kids even more than I already did. I am being honest in saying I was terrified to say the least.....And another thing is you really cant be prepared except to make sure your house is clean and safe (which is obviously more important). I think that they are intelligent and experienced and can see the truth through the lies so you should have nothing to worry about. Good Luck!!!!!
2007-01-22 05:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Kimnkicks mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes years ago I was put through this by the ex. One thing if possible make sure you pay for the evaluation.
Just make sure the place is picked up. She/he will look into all the cupboards and closets. This person even looked under the beds. Take off a day of work if you have to. Make sure you go food shopping right before the person is showing up. Make sure if the children are little that you have all electrical outlets covers as well as baby safe gadgets on all the drawers and cupboard's.
If you smoke be honest I can smell ciggy smoke in a persons home.
Do not say more then you want the other side to know. If you have to pay professional carpet cleaners to clean carpets do it. Make sure everything works, all light bulbs work as well as fire alarms etc.
Good luck!!
My ex rented a place and rented all his furniture to look good, he still did not win his case lol!! Of course the church and his family paid for everything....
By the way-- this is all perception. Remember at all times this person is god at this moment and just mind your manners. I too worked full time when this happened and it was held against me. Three boys and one disabled trying to work and hold everything together, and the lady held this against me! I was shocked....
Again good luck!
2007-01-22 04:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing that is hoped to come out of a custody evaluation is to determine your thoughts, perceptions and styles of being a parent. The court, or legal system wants to assess what type of a parent you are. They will ask questions about your parenting techniques, ie whether you believe in spanking, the use of time outs, etc. They will want to know a little bit about your family of origin and what parenting styles you were raised with.
They will also assess the physical surroundings of your home and determine what type of environment the children will live in if they are to be with you.
Some custody evaluations also interview people you submit as a "reference."
The best thing to do is to "be yourself. Present who you really are to the evaluators. and don't try to do things out of character to impress them. Good luck.
2007-01-22 04:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah been there,
My ex and I were going thrugh nasty divorce and he made a bunch of false accusations...I had the kids, he had left...
They come, unannounced to your home, see how you interact with your kids....they are fair....
when she showed up my house was as always, a mess, single parent working full time, 2 and 6 yr. old...she did not hold that against me....there were several visits if I recall....this was a while ago...if you are a good parent don't worry...they will evaluate who the children are best with and who they are most comfortable with..........
2007-01-22 04:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you have enough $, room for the kids, dressers, food, time to spend with, seperate rooms for girls/boys. clothes, work? can you provide good daycare if working....
just to name a few
also how you punish bad behavvior (time out chair or room)
2007-01-22 04:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by hjkrol59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋