my marriage is falling a part , a big reason why is because of me.?

Question

I have been married for almost 2 yrs now I have a 10 month daughter. since the beggining i have lied to my wife about another girlfriend i had she caught me e-mailing this girl, i went out with my ex-girlfriend and my best friends one time she found out about that and forbid me to talk to my friends becasue it was a sign of disrespect. I convince her not to leave me back then , she forgave me but has not forget about it .I work for the goverment and my job has keapt me away from her and my daughter for long time . im currently hafl way across the world from her now she is in the states now. I ve been here since sep and i got till late july to come back , at the biggining when i left her everything was alright little by little we would argue over the phone over the simple stuff , i feel like she has a grude against me i understand why, but i feel like she had the oprtunity to leave me when i did her wrong but she stay now she means the world to me. i dont see myself with out her!

Answer 1

Consider yourself lucky that she hasn't kicked you to the curb. I don't mean to be rude, but not a lot of woman would put up with a lying, cheating man.

You have to try to put yourself in your wives shoes. She's probably still very hurt and worried that your "habits" haven't changed. Infidelity (of any kind) is a hard thing to forgive and forget especially when your spouse is gone for so long. You have to give her time and assure her that you're a changed man. You broke her trust and you're not going to gain it back from one day to another. You'll have to work extra hard to earn her trust again. I suggest you both go to marriage counseling the minute you get back to the US. Show her that you want to save your marriage and you're willing to do anything.

The test is when you spend long periods of time apart like you are now. You have to make a decision that if you want your wife and your family together, then you need to remain faithful no matter what. Love, honor and respect your wife. Show her that she is and will always be the only woman for you.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You have to want her and love her when you are close together not realize your feelings when you are so far apart. I give her much respect that she has stayed with you, while you have wronged her. Imagine how you may feel if she did this to you, or some other man will meet her and your adorable daughter and decide that he needs them in his life and falls in love with her, if he promises her trust and fidelity, you will lose her! He will gain everything, and you will have your little girlfriends now all the time you want with them. Wow, I didnt' think men were truly like this but I am learning that they really are heartless and egotistical sometimes. What makes us like you guys? I don't know anymore. Good luck to your wife and that precious little girl, you don't deserve either one of them

Answer 3

stop being a dirt bag and either leave your wife so she can be with a real man or get some serious soul searching along with counseling and mend your marriage.