i just don't know right now,i just wanna run away,but when you think about it that's not gonna solve anything,and i don't know what to do to help me relax. It's making me not wanna eat,can't sleep i just don't care. i can't handle it,i can't.i don't wanna talk to any of my friends,excuse my language but i feel like **** and i can't do nothing about it.i'm telling ya'll my true feelings right now,i just stopped crying not even 5 min ago. i'm 16,i don't gotta a license,so i can't go anywhere,so i'm stuck in this house lke 24/7 not exactly 24/7 but almost. So please can yall tell me some things to do or might help me relax more?
2007-01-22 03:28:27 · 31 answers · asked by ~Jess~ 2 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
just concentrate on school and education
as get a little older, you will find life busy and fulfilled
2007-01-22 03:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NORMAL. All of the other suggestions were valid... but predictable. Talking to a counselor or a hotline is a good idea for you. But you also need to ask yourself what would make you happy.
Not driving is a bogus EXCUSE. I didn't drive till I was 30.
If your depression is bad enough that you won't leave your computer just yet... try jumping into a chat room under a fake new id and drive people nuts for a minute. We all can't stand the "intruders"... but we all also have fun engaging into an arguement that can only be won by being the fastest typer. LAUGH about it. My favorite antagonistic move use to be educating the vampire goths about AIDS and Hep. Don't go nuts with it though. Maybe just 20 minutes to get a giggle... then get out of the house. Go to a store... even a 7-11 for a candybar is good reason.
No matter what the problem is... understand "it could be worse"
If it's because of another person... realize that you are too important and stubborn to get so upset over someone else. Happiness is a CHOICE. It's not just handed to you. Even if you won the lottery tomorrow... you'll still be miserable if you choose to be. Rich people cry too. Perfect people are rarely so perfect when no one is looking. CHOOSE to be happy.
DEFENITELY talk to a counselor. They can evaluate your depression and help you find out if it's situational, or if you need a little extra help. (a real doctor and medication)
If it turns out to be that you need the extra help... Go for it.
This is the only life we get. This is not a test. This is the real deal. So don't let anyone or anything take away a single moment of the smiles you deserve to have. They belong to YOU... and YOU are the only one responsible for collecting them.
oh... and by the way... running away is not the right answer.
It feels right for a minute... then things get way worse. ALWAYS tackle things head on. It'll feel bad for a minute... then things get way better. I know it sounds silly. Avoidance seems so tempting. But after a little practice... you'll see I'm right and you'll be better prepared for the future when things REALLY get tough... Like when you marry your perfect spouse and have that first stupid arguement over your insane teenager that you can't figure out...
2007-01-25 15:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by rapkin73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your the only 16 year old that feels like this; you are wrong. I remember when I was 16 and getting ready to get my license, I told myself that I would never be home and would drive to the beach every chance I got. When I finally got my license I had to get a real job to pay real bills and insurance and I really didnt drive around as much as I thought I would. You do have a point in not complaining about how your life is going because its not going to do any good. You need to do the things that make you happy, make friends that make you feel good and that you can relate to. As far as not eating; you should start eating a nutritious meal or your going to continue to feel like ****. Life comes at you fast and in 2 years you will be driving and you have better have an idea of what you want to do as a profession. You should start thinking about this now. The medical field is always a safe bet because the demand is so great right now. Thank GOD that you are healthy and able to make your own choices. At this stage in your life your friends are your best ways to cope from stress, if you dont have any that you can trust then find one. Find one with a car if that is important. Youll get out of this rutt; if you feel like harming your self then go straight to an emergency room. Good luck, and take in a deep breath and drive on.
2007-01-22 11:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by Tias 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in yourself and your future.
Understand that most all of us went through a stage, at different times in our lives, where everything went all to heck emotionally and we felt like "what's the use?"
Know that it will pass. That life is a rollercoaster, (to use an old cliche), and the ups far outweigh the downs.
About now though: Get involved in something. Start doing something creative if you can't get out and about. Start writing, reading, exercising, painting...anything to get your mind to concentrate on something other than the here and now.
When you start feeling like you want to cry, decide not to cry. Tell yourself that you are in control and practice acting happy. It seems too easy to work, but once you start conditioning yourself to act happy, pretty soon you are.
Also, you're 16 years-of-age. That is a very hormonal time of life where your body goes through a lot of chemical changes. Yes, physically you've already had a lot of changes, but the body is still growing and changing. Identifying it as a chemical reaction may help you understand and eliminate the side effects.
2007-01-22 11:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by zencherry67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are feeling this way but let me tell you this, I'm way, way past my 16th. birthday. but one time in my life I started to feel just like you are feeling now. Things were changing, I just wanted to go away. Most kids and most adults don't know what depression is or how it can alter every thing you feel. They sometimes make things worse by ignoring the facts. Depression can be a very serious illness if left untreated. It can be nothing also but why take a chance.Seek help from home,school,church, or professional help. Don't wait till it's to late like I did. It cost me my family, my friends , my house, and my car. I finally got professional help. As it turns out I suffered from a chemical in-balance in the brain that was corrected with therapy and medication. I thank God that I was given a second chance. I'm completely healed now. Good luck.
2007-01-25 15:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by Adalberto B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't really saying why you are so depressed? Because you are stuck in the house? If that's it - just try and get a hobby - build something - sew something - read books - books are a great way to get you out of your life and into another - I love to read and do so every day. Find an online game room that you can chat with others while playing games - yahoo has loads of those. What about after school activities? Sports? Cheerleading? Drama Club, etc.? That would keep you out of the house a couple of hours after school during the week. Good Luck!
2007-01-22 11:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is sad that someone actually had the nerve to tell you that you are stuck on yourself when clearly what is going on is a cry for help, I've been there before and although you may fell like you can't talk to your friends or your family that is the best thing to do but make sure it is someone who is willing to do more listening to you because right now you need to be heard,i commend you because you made the first step in trying to solve what you are going through just pray and ask GOD for guidance and it will be alright and don't forget to physically talk to some one you love trust me you will find a solution to your loneliness, good luck
2007-01-26 08:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Vick'e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to your parents? I have a 18-year-old granddaughter. She started having the same thoughts when she was your age. When you are stuck in the house; don't turn on the TV. Get your Bible out and start searching the scriptures. I know at your age you think about other things. But at your age this is the time you need to start thinking about the rest of your life. Start making plans for your life coming up. You might not carry all of it out, but it would help you to get your mind off what's bothering you. Don't worry about not having your licenses, you still have lots of time. Think about your education now, and after you graduate, you can think of getting the things you will need. I don't know if you're a Christian, but you need to really think of asking God into your life. When you start feeling the depression, ask God to help you. When you need help, go outside, walk around in your yard and pray to God. You will see results.
2007-01-25 13:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Donna H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey. The best thing that you can do is to get out of the house. Spend as much time doing anythign else. Believe it or not, i know your only 16 but your not actually in love with this guy. Everybody goes through this at sometime in their life ( usually around 16 ) Once you get over it you'll understand what im talking about. good luck
2007-01-22 11:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by mr meat puppet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find some way to make where you are a better place- Everyone can only operate in the space they are in at the moment. If its your home, find a way to make it better. If you are outside make it better- pick up the trash or pull the weeds. The habits you develop in making where you are a better place will make you a better person. Your world will grow larger and better and is more likely to occcur sooner when you develop the habit of making wherever you are a better place.
Givers gain-develop the habit of giving and you will find you will eventually gain far more than what you have given. Your worth is not determined by the value of what you give but by the act of finding ways in which you contribute no matter where you find yourself in the moment. Good luck to you.
2007-01-26 01:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by mba1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up some type of hobby that you can do at home or ask your parents if you could do volunteer work at your nearby hospital. That will get you out of the house and you would be helping people at the same time. And why are you not in school? If you're 16 you should be at least a Junior in high school. What's up with that?
2007-01-22 11:34:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋