Without any fear of being caught or any further retribution, given the right circumstances, would you cheat on your spouse?
2007-01-22 03:27:59 · 36 answers · asked by mcs7942 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont have any reasons to cheat on my husband and if i did i would just leave****
2007-01-22 03:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To use a well-worn-dated-phrase: "Why have hamburger, when I can have steak!"
That being said, once a person starts to "lie" to him/her-self about their relationship (mentally), in my opinion, that relationship between myself and my spouse is going to start or has all ready started on a down ward spiral, i.e., lack of trust, love, etc. Then the next question becomes, does the person want to save the marriage? If so, then joint counseling - because something is happening in the marriage that caused the individual to "stray."
Obviously, going to or getting the other partner to go to joint counseling sometimes is difficult. Also, in back of the other person's mind becomes the question, "Why are we going to joint counseling?", or "What brought this on?", etc. Husbands(normally males) are relucant to go to counseling as egos get involved or there's isn't anything wrong with me - it's "HER" fault - she never gives me "enough" or "it's the same "OLD" stuff" or No variety or ? ? ? ! ! !
If children are involved in a marriage, and there will come a time when children start questioning things (read "life" or "heard from a friend, who heard from a friend"); how can that spouse that "cheated" give a honest answer without being a hypocrite?
This is on the assumption that some type of dialogue is taking place between parent(s) and child(ren). Additionally, the person "cheating" has question(s) s/he have to answer: If this relationship is better than my "legal" one, what do I do? Leave? Stay? My legal relationship is better than the other relationship! What if the other person begins to like me (and I really don't care for the other individual) - calls my home? Questions get asked, will they not????
Any time people are involved in a "cheating" relationship, it is no longer a secret. "Where do we meet?". "How do I schedule an appointment at that time of day?". "Do I have to let my boss know where I am?". "What if my spouse calls asking for me and a co-worker indicated I went home 'sick?' ". I get a call from one of my children's school indicating "my child needs to be picked up right 'now' because of illness". Etc. Etc.
During WW2 there was a saying put out by the U.S. Government that "Loose lips, sink ships!" without insulting anyone's intelligence, meaning that when 2 people talked about deployment of U.S. Armed Service Personnel going from point A to point C, that the enemy could be waiting at point B to destroy them.
Finally, nothing is "secret" when it comes to emotions between 2 people or will it be 3 people or 4 people (the other person is married or not married) - once emotions are involved the other spouse can normally have a feeling that something is not "right" with his/her spouse (gut response). And we have not even touched on the subject about how the cheating couple may be "mentally beating themself or themselves up.
Bottom line: Just don't get involved with a person in a "cheating affair." Not worth it phsically or mentally.
Once again, all of the above is just my opinion(s) and I'm getting off my soap box - finally!! Takes a loooong time to respond to good question(s) and try to give an honest answer and I've just barely touch the surface to this question!
2007-01-22 05:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by 2PH's 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never. A few years ago I was cheated on and didn't find out until it was over. So I know what it's like and it's totally not worth it. If you are having feelings for someone else it's best to break it off now and not beat around the bush
2007-01-22 03:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by funnybunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely not, not only because I consider marriage a covenant but also because I've experienced the other end of it. It hurts unbelievably!
My ex did that to me and I not only know how it feels, but I know what it did to our son. He couldn't help but know because his father left us to live with another woman...abandoned us.
And I have several friends whose spouses cheated on them and they reported the same thing...no it hurts more people than you think and it's devastating to the parties involved and the children even if they are grown children.
2007-01-22 03:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by rugbee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
I would like to commend the answer that ohiofiref gave.
You are awesome.
You appreciate every minute of life, being that you save them on a daily basis.
I salute you and what a great role model you are for all the men who are afraid to make this statement, but really want to.
2007-01-22 03:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
I might die slowly and whither in misery, but I wouldn't cheat no matter what.
I am a lot of things, but I am not a scumbag.
Dee you make the mistake of assuming that every guy has a wife who treats him well and/or excites him. I think most guys would happily say that if it were true. I'm happy for him, really....
2007-01-22 03:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
every one cheats. not that its wright. we all have thought about being with someone else. thats what day dreams are. but to actualy do it and not have any fear well if thats the case you dont love who your with. or you have a very open relationship. I had a husband who had no fears, he also had trouble keeping his pants on. lets just say he was replaced by a wonderfull man!
2007-01-22 03:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by bilinda a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! In the first place, it's wrong and I wouldn't want him to cheat on me. He can't keep up with my insatiable desire anyway. In the second place, no one could measure up to his fantastic art of love making. That's why I have such an unquenchable need for Him.
2007-01-22 03:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by Angel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The conditions of your question can never be met, so it is a moot point. Swingers cheat all the time, although when you have your wifes permission it is not cheating, so I guess that doesn't count. No permission, no cheating.
2007-01-22 03:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell No! My man is too great as a provider and he's the bomb in the bedroom. So why purchase the ranch when I have the Stallion at home?
2007-01-22 03:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? My husband literally has everything I could ever want or need. I find other men attractive, but not sexually attractive. I have no reason to look elsewhere for what I am privileged to have at home.
2007-01-22 03:33:12 · answer #11 · answered by Snow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋