a so-called friend of mine was out to dinner with my mother and her friend donna, who happens to be my friends aunt. my mother is barely a year out of 2 re-hab's for prescription drugs and my friend go's and smokes 2 joints in my mother's presence not to mention one time was in the car with my mother. now my mother is doing great. just got her RN's license back and is back on track, but now my ex-friend is talking all kinds of crap on me saying i am ridiculous and totally over-reacting over this situation because i went off on her. wtf? don't i have the right to be completely out-raged ?
2007-01-22 03:24:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my whole issue is the lack of respect....i wouldnt go lighting up a joint in a car with a friends mother...whether she was in recovery or not.
2007-01-22 03:49:07 · update #1
AGREED! That particular friend has NO respect for herself, you, or your mother. Thats just plain old rude. As you said. Who would lite up drugs in front of soemones "parents"???
In recovery or NOT. Ditch her as your friend, thats very very lewd behavior! You dont need to be around anyone who cant respect your mom or any adult for that matter.
2007-01-22 05:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The armchair psychologist in me says that your friend feels that your mother quitting is a slight against the friend. Your friend is probably a prisoner of her addiction and she sees your mother's strength as displaying her (the friend's) weakness in being unable to quit.
Your mother quitting is saying to the friend "Your choice to continue doing drugs is wrong because I did the 'right' thing and got clean" and your friend is too immature to realize that the choices other people make in their own lives do not necessarily affect your own.
Tell your friend to grow up, the world doesn't revolve around her.
2007-01-22 03:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is an adult and since she has been in rehab twice she is fully aware that to partake in drug use is her CHOICE. So your friend was smoking a joint in your mother's presence...when an "recovering" alcoholic visits friends who drink those who drink still partake in alochol, the alcoholic simply makes the CHOICE not to. I would say that you most deffinately did over react. You mother is not a child and is going to come up against people using all of the time, she needs to learn how to deal with it. No one gives us a guarantee that life is ever going to be fair...get over it.
2007-01-22 03:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mother still needs to let go of her old friends from her user days.
She can't talk them into getting clean, but they sure can talk her into going right back into the game again.
You have to come all the way out of that life. There is no halfway. But only your mother can do it. You can't do it for her.
2007-01-22 03:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do NOT blame you at all..I have a similar situation going on myself and Im totally pissed..I have already decided that it was completely dis-respectful and I will NOT be friends with someone like that..you do what you feel..but you have my support..Id be COMPLETELY PISSED...some people need to learn to be respectful of others and thats just not cool at all..be mad, you have every right
2007-01-22 03:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jessi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset with your so call friend. First of all it has to do with respect. this shows she has no respect for her self, let along for someone else. Tell her in the future, you hope she will have more respect for you, and your family, even if she does not have respect for herself! Their is and old saying, show me your friends, and I will tell who you are! Now look at yourself! I just want you to think, about who you associate yourself with!
2007-01-22 03:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-friend is an idiot. She's so wrapped up in herself she can't see that her behaviour in front of your mother could jeopardize her recovery. You totally have the the right to be protective of your mother and supportive of her recovery.
2007-01-22 03:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lulamilu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Really. You need to end all contact with drug users. Your mother has no chance of long term recovery with druggies hanging around.
2007-01-22 03:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your "friend" isn't a "friend". If she truly cared about your mom, she would have never lit up a joing in front of her. It's like waving a piece of candy in front of a diabetic child. No you are not over-reacting. She is wrong. Find a new friend.
2007-01-22 03:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do. Dump her. You don't want to hang out with a drug user anyway. Raise your standards when choosing friends.
2007-01-22 03:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋