The girl that says she is carrying my baby plans to take me to court if I stay with the girl I love. What are my rights? Can she do this? Don't I have the right to be with who I want to be with?
I have told this girl that if the baby is mine (and I want proof) that I will support it. I also asked for visitation rights and she said that is totally out of the question.
How do I proceed with this?
If this is my child I want to be part of his or her life. I feel I have that right.
2007-01-22 03:19:09 · 25 answers · asked by JZ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The girl carrying you're baby (if it is so) cannot tell you who you can stay with. It sounds like you may need an attorney to protect you're rights as a parent, if you are the father. Get the bloodwork done first...to find out if the baby is you'res..then proceed by fighting for you're rights. None of this matters if you are not the father..so first things first..get the proof, then go from there..if you are paying child support you have every right to have visitation with this child. The courts decide that not her.
2007-01-22 03:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is just trying to scare you into leaving the girl you are already seeing. One, when the baby is born have a blood test taken. If the baby is proven to be yours then you need to get a lwayer and set up a child support and visitation schedule through the court. If she fails to comply she will be held in contempt of court. When the child is first born she will probably have more time just because the baby depends so much on the mother after birth but as long as you pay on time and care for the child properly your rights are equal to hers and as the child gets older you will be allowed more time. Be sure you have a nice place to live and ample room for the child. Good luck and I hope everything works out.
2007-01-22 11:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by lonestarlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I hate hearing stuff like this. Women using their unborn child to "trap" a man. It's aint right! I wouldn't be surprise if it turns out not to be your child. She seems like she wants you and will stop at anything to get you. This will not hold up in court and you will, providing your a good father in the eyes of the court, get visitation rights. She can not take you to court just because you are with someone else, that's ridiculous! She is just being vindictive. If I were you, I wouldn't worry until you have a blood test and it is confirmed that the baby is yours. Did she tell you she was pregnant after you broke up? Think about it. Women do a lot of stupid things to keep men in their lives. Not all, not this one but many of them do. You are right, IF this is your child, you have to right to be part of their lives regardless who you are in a relationship with. Plain and Simply, don't fall for that crap that she wont let you see the baby if you dont get back together with her...they are just empty threats and basically she can't do it unless she can prove to the court that you are a 'bad' parent. And besides, it will be a few months before you have to deal with it. Good Luck and don't let her get in your head.
2007-01-22 11:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can choose. You also have a right to see your child and be a part of its life, no matter what she says.
You must, however, support this child. If you don't, your visitation rights will be forfeited. Ethically, if not legally.
First, insist on a paternity test. Then, or even before you insist on the paternity test, get a lawyer.
A bit of unsolicited advice: Next time, use birth control. Or keep your pants zipped. It really bothers me when people are so casual about sex and it results in the life of another human being...a life that has to start out messed up (with biological parents that hate each other and possibly poverty-stricken). Think about that before being so concerned with a few moments of passing pleasure. gosh.
2007-01-22 11:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by hope03 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be it that you are the father and are willing to make child support payments and haven't had a bad past as far as her filing for a restraining order against you everything will be ok. The court will entitle you to visitation rights against her will because in the eyes of the court you haven't done anything (if you're clean). Good luck. She can't choose who you're with, she's just jealous that you aren't with her. Have her get a paternaty test and you get one yourself too so that she won't lie. And the girl you're with, make sure she's got a clean record to prove to the court so that you can have overnight visitation rights.
2007-01-22 11:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by ♪ Tony's girl ♪ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the baby is born you can get a paternity test and if the test comes back that you are the father take her to court for visitations and so that you can pay childsupport. I would help her now without the test, cause then you would end the better one in court, especially if it is proven you are not the father. But you can be with whoever you choose! Good luck!
2007-01-22 11:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by theresa_whitley_28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't take you to court for being with someone else. The only thing she could take you to court for was if you didn't pay for the kid or if she didn't believe it would be safe or in the child's interest to leave the baby with you during visitation.
The best thing you could do is seek advice from a lawyer or citizens advice.
If she says she won't give you visitation rights you can take her to court because if it's your baby then it's your right.
Best of luck! xxx
2007-01-22 11:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a paternity test first thing. If the child is yours get a lawyer and get formal visitation rights you be order to pay child support.
Be a good father and have a happy life with the girl you love
2007-01-22 11:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the test done, do not sign no papers, until you find out if, the child is yours. The girl who is having the baby, has no control over who you see, lets get that straight. If the child is yours set up child support payments, and that you have to do, and ask the judge for visitation rights. she has no control over that, and if she does not comply, take her to court. be their for the child, not for playing games with her!
2007-01-22 11:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be with the person you love. She seems to be trying to manipulate you.
Don't break up with the girl you love.
Whether the baby is yours or not, can be proven with a DNA test. You will most likely be granted parental rights, even if she doesn't want it, because you are willing to support the baby.
2007-01-22 11:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋