Well Its not so much that i dont rather then I want to wait, Im only 19,hes 22, we havent even been married a month. I told him along time ago and before we got married, that I didnt want to have any kids until I was at LEAST 23. I want to get all my college done so I can be there with my kid when its born till old enough for pre-k, then I will start work. He understood it before but now since hes in the air force, hes like I WANT kids, and Id like you at least preg. b4 I go to Iraq (which we arent even sure he will get sent there as of now the only place we are going is japan)He says that hes risking his life for me and I wont even give him a kid (now) I said thats not it, I love you but I cant handle it right now, I want school done.
What can I do??
2007-01-22 03:03:30 · 8 answers · asked by corrick_1 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Right now hes in texas, Im in IL,we cant see each other for another 3 weeks, then we are apart about 2 weeks,he comes home a little while, then hes gone for like another month and a half, shipped to Japan and then I go to japan in may. I dont want to be alone and pregnant, and I dont want him to be in Iraq, me be preg, in school, and then,as a possiblity, he dies. Im not ready to raise a kid alone.Im scared to lose him. and I want him there for the whole pregnance, which im sure he does too,if he would just wait...
2007-01-22 03:13:55 · update #1
You married you young if you don't agree on that kind of stuff.....
2007-01-22 03:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Texan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns! YOU are the one that will have to carry that child, give birth to the child and raise it while he is gone. He is worried about carrying on his family genes...which is very negative thinking.
He sounds a little immature. Having a child is a real big deal, and a lifelong commitment. If you aren't ready for that, then by all means don't do it. Be married for awhile, enjoy each other and the traveling that you will be doing. A baby does not make your life easier.
2007-01-22 03:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 22:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason he wants you pregnant while he is overseas is because he is insecure. He doesn't want to worry about you and another man while he is gone and assumes that if you are pregnant you won't be messing around on him. That is so sad.
Stick to your decision. Finish school and get on with your life. You and your future child will be so much better off.
Sit down and talk with him and try to reassure him that you are married and have no interest in another man. It won't work, but you can try. Don't allow that "risking his life for you" emotion hook to get to you. And use your birth control...don't depend on him.
2007-01-22 03:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your body so he will have to accept it. Tell him you would rather wait till he comes back home from Iraq so that he can share all of the pregnancy experiences with you. Why would he want you to have his baby while he is gone? Tell him you want him to share in the birth of your child and you don't want to do it alone. If he's in Iraq he might not get back in time to see the birth.
2007-01-22 03:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by precious1too 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what an immature jackazz... if hes new in the military its a huge mistake to rush in to having kids...yeah you get nice benefits but what if he get out when his enlistment is up?? all those medical bills that are paid for now won't be when he gets out... i agree you should wait and yeah he's "risking his life" for you but you have the rest of your lives to have kids tell him you want to wait til you guys are both more stable.
2007-01-22 03:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stop birth control then. it is soon to get pregnant. i waited 10 yrs and was over 30, its way better for many to wait. you'll be able to spend more time raising your kid and not a babysitter. get him a puppy
2007-01-22 03:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is scared to death he may not come back to you from bering over there. He wants to leave a part of himself for YOU in case anything happens to him! He is trying to give you the gift of himselk girl! Hold him close tonight let him know hoiw much he is loved and go for that baby!
2007-01-22 03:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋