Whenever I talk to my friend, all she wants to do is bash my ex. How do I get her to stop?

Question

My neighbor become a close friend to me when I was breaking up with my exboyfriend. I was living with my boyfriend at the time and my neighbor became my quick get-away where I could go & vent. It's been 5 months since my breakup and my neighbor keeps bringing up my ex. She always wants to talk bad about him while I don't want to discuss him at all. My ex & I still talk a little and he occasionally stops by to drop something off or pick something up. When my neighbor sees this, she immediately calls me to find out what's going on. Then she always starts going off about what a big jerk he is, even if he's being nice to me. I don't want to tell off my neighbor because I live by myself & it's nice to know there's someone close by looking out for me in case there is a real emergency. So, how do I politely get her to stop doing this?

Answer 1

I think that she needs to get a life! Maybe she likes having you all to herself and she is afraid that you will get back together with him and not have time for her anymore. The best thing to do is be upfront and when she says something negative about him tell her that you and him got past all of that and now you are friends and you have moved on. If it continues ask her nicely if she can not discuss him with you anymore. Just say you dont want to talk about the past that you are focusing on the future. Good luck I had a possisive friend and I had to eventually end the friendship because I couldnt take it anymore.

Answer 2

Tell your neighbor that you do appreciate her being there for you, but you want her to stop talking mess about your ex-boyfriend. Tell her that everything's been said and done and you want to move on with your life. Once you tell her openly and honestly how you feel, she will respect your wishes and stop bashing your ex. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 3

Sure, politly tell her to stop bringing him up, make it seem like his name annoys you!! I guess you've learned yourlesson. Sometimes those friends we want to vent too, take things to far.