Why are things changing like this?

Question

Okay. Back in the old days, you would always get strapped in school. Now, schools don't do that anymore. Also, back then, if a neighbor caught you doing anything wrong, they'd spank you, and then you would get spanked again at home, esp. if you got strapped in school. Now, neighbor don't spank their neighbor children anymore. They also say these days that if you discipline your child(ren) they call that abuse. Why do you think all of these things changed? And why do you think that some people think that discipline is abuse?

And please don't give me rude answers!!!

Answer 1

I think it has to do with the pussification of society as a whole. I'm 27, and I remember respecting my friends' parents as much as my own. And when I got a note sent home from school because I was misbehaving, I was pretty scared of the consequences. It's almost scary how much things have changed in a generation. Now, everybody's a "victim." While I don't agree with a parent beating on their kids with a baseball bat, I think a good smack or two on the *** with a belt is just what some kids nowadays need. I got spanked with a steel spoon, and I don't harbour any resentment towards my parents for it, but at the same time, that's not how I choose to discipline my own son.

Answer 2

There is a major difference between a beating and a spanking. One swat on a rear-end or slap on the hand is not the same thing as being pounded repeatedly with a leather belt. It makes me nuts that people can't make this distinction. I would never beat my child, but if he's screaming and defiant and out of control, climbing out of time-out or trying to hit me, you bet he gets a very quick reminder of which of us is in charge around here.

I don't think all kids need this and at my house it's saved for very specific situations - but there are times when kids are out of control and beyond reason, and a swat, one controlled swat from a calm-faced parent who has already counted to ten, is appropriate and necessary.

People have gone all flakey with this business, and the result will be a generation of selfish spoiled brats with an overinflated sense of entitlement and no clue how to get along with others. Some kids don't automatically see why it is that you're in charge, and it will be some years before they comprehend the whole bit about providing for their every need - that's what they DO take for granted.

I don't really understand why, myself. I was beaten with a belt as a child for things like leaving the ice cream out or making a mess somewhere. I don't think that kind of thing is right, because it doesn't fit the crime. But when it comes to children who are out of control, I think an occasional spanking is necessary.

Answer 3

Actually children just don't get spanked in the u.s here. My parents are Romanians and they tell me teachers are still allowed to spank their students and I'm sure neighbors have the right to spank children. It may not be happening here but it is in other parts of the world. One reason the U.S reacts today like that is because the families of the U.S don't believe it is a adequate form of discipline. But think about it. ever since we stopped the spanking mostly everyones grades went down..... lol

Answer 4

I blame parents for this change. In the "old" days if you got in trouble at school you were punished .. then came home and were punished again. If you didn't do well with studies your parents didn't allow you to do extracurricular - now parents fight for the right to allow "Johnny failure" to play ball! In the old days parents wouldn't let you out of the house if you didn't look like a decent human being .. now parents fight for your right to look like a slut or have your pants hanging down around your butt! Parents are being held hostage and if if you are not allowed to hit your child anymore there are ways to take back the control. But the problem is with the parents and not the child - someone has to make the parents understand the damage they are doing. I met a really funny "old" lady in the hospital who said the secret to raising good kids was knowing how to hit them without leaving marks .. I never hit my children (37 and 34) but I did take control and made decisions that they didn't like - but thanked me for later. You are not your child's friend!

Answer 5

have a look around you and what is happening in society. Off course discipline is lacking. Sadly too many parents are having unwanted children, then there is those on drugs, others that drink or gamble.... which leaves no time for raising and discipling children. The world and its humanity are becoming a very sad state.