have my friends forgot me?

Question

ive been ill for quite some time and havnt seen my friends they dont seem to text me any more or ring i have to ring them when they pick up i say "hi its kim how are you? " they say " oh hi"
have they just forgot me or what?
please help!!!!

Answer 1

People tend to get caught up in their day to day living. If you are not part of it in person or because you are away, sick..etc. they tend to forget you and go on with other friends who are in touch.
it is not because they forgot, you just weren't available.
Now that you are better and can be in the day to day thing, you should reconnect with no problem.
If a person is a real friend they would keep in contact no matter what, especialy if you were ill.
perhaps you should evaluate who are acquaintances and who are real friends.

Answer 2

(Almost) everyone here has given you a series of good answers which I think you should take simultaneously. I understand what you feel cause I've been through it all. What you need to do is understand that people live their lives and get lost in the speed of it all, but that doesnt mean that you're not cared for. 2ndly, think about whether you have been a good communicator: do you call and keep in touch often? (I hardly did so I couldnt blame them much) You should also ask them why they didn't come to see you and if you hear their explainations, maybe you'd understand better. You should tell t hem that you missed seeing them while you were sick and expected that they'd come see you. They need to know that as friends you should lookout for eachother. But that doesn't mean that they wont make mistakes, so you should be ready to let it go, cause in future, friends might disappoint you so much more than this, and you need to gear yourself up for that. Get well soon, with love!

Answer 3

It's not unusual in this world for people to drift off when someone is sick or unavailable, but they shouldn't react so casually if they haven't been hearing from you. It's possible you're reading too much into their responses. If not, then it sounds like something else may be going on. Have you possibly offended them in some way? Maybe have been too needy? Or even turned down their help when it was offered?
Give them a 2nd chance, then review your own behavior if you still feel slighted. Either way, you will need to talk to them to work things out. Or, if their attitude towards you doesn't improve or they don't seem willing to work on the relationship, then they're not friends that you can count on and you should look for people who care more about you.

Answer 4

I can't say that they have completely forgotten you, but it is kind of sad that they aren't contacting you from time to time to see how you are doing. Especially if you have been ill.

It kind of depends on your age as well. Younger people tend to be a little more self involved, & figure you will look them up when you are ready since you are presently out of their picture.

Also depending on your illness, some people are very uncomfortable around hospitals, sickness, & disease, so they try to avoid it all as much as possible.

Not of the above is a valid excuse though. It's just more like one or two out of the many possible explainations that there could be as to why they aren't keeping in touch with you.

One thing is for sure. It may be an indication of the kind of people you surround yourself with.
If none of them sent you any flowers, or get well soon cards, or came to visit while you were sick to cheer you up, & you need or want that in a friend, then maybe you could start by caring a little less about the ones who lost contact with you, & start seeking out people who are a little more supportive, & are there for you.

Hope you get better soon.

Answer 5

Hi Kim... unfortunately, life goes on and people tend to forget to call or text as often... it's a case of "out of sight, out of mind"... it would be great if you could arrange for some of your friends to come around an visit you if you are up to it... you could maybe have them call around once a week for lunch and that would give you the opportunity to catch up on what's going on and feel part of the group again... and having friends around may help with your recovery...

Hope you get well soon Kim... don't give up on your friends!

Answer 6

When my younger sister decided to join the club and got homed schooled she felt the same way after a few months. They slowly started decreacing the emails and phone calls towards her and she felt very lonely for a while. Now she thinks it is nice because she has made better and nicer friends that she has met at church and what not.

Answer 7

If they're young they might not know how to cope with having a sick friend.When you're young avoidance is ususally the way people handle things.I hope you get well Kim and I hope your friends come around soon.

Answer 8

If they have forgotten u just because u were ill,then it's very very selfish of them.Don't be hurt...Be friendly with them..but try to find better friends who genuinely care for u..If friends don't be there at times of your sickness and pain..they're not friends at all.But don't confront them about it right now in case u just end up being miserable and lonely.good luck with your life and hope u find true friends:)

Answer 9

People often feel uncomfortable or awkward when someone they care about is ill. They don't always know how to deal with it either.

Have you tried telling them how you feel? That would help. At least you would know for sure who is and who isn't a friend.

Hope you feel better soon.....

Answer 10

thats really nasty that they haven't been in touch with you more while you were ill. They probably have just continued with their own lives and now feel bad about it. ask them if you want but if they do not want to stay your friends then they weren't worth it! x