My son is 9 years old. I raised him by myself until he was 5. Then I got married. However for the last 4 years I have been dying to take my son to Disney World. This year I will be able to afford it because of some side work that I am doing that I get paid for next month. The money can pay for the whole trip for our family of 3 for 4 nights and 3 days. The only problem is my husband, who actually is not my son's real father, doesn't want to go. He feels that all the money I will make should go to our house. Don't get me wrong...we have no problem paying for our house otherwise. He doesn't want to go because he doesn't want to use the money and doesn't want to take the time off work. So I went ahead and booked the trip for my son and I to go on spring break anyway. I haven't told him yet, I want him to go but I know he won't want to. Is this so wrong to plan the trip without him? I love my son dearly and I have never taken him on any big vacation...ever.
2007-01-22 02:02:31 · 35 answers · asked by lacygirl10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ABSOLUTELY NOT! Take your son they can only enjoy the magic of Disney world when they are little. As your baby won't be a baby forever. You won't regret it, I promise you that. Your house is gonna be there as long as you have a mortgage and then after. I don't take my husband on vacations either anymore because he's a jerk and always complains and ruins it for everyone. At first I felt a little guilty, but decided no man is gonna stop my kids from experiencing the fun things in life husband or not. Just think of it as YOUR treat to your angel he deserves it, and so do you. Don't feel guilty or worry about it have fun for all Disney has to offer. I can't begin to tell you how magical it is. Your husband will still be there when you get back. Sometimes it is important for moms with children that are remarried to have their own time together with their children, the memories will last forever and after you get old that is all you will have of the past. I wish you good luck and a safe trip, and if you have time I would suggest going to Typhoon Lagoon, it is an amazing water park! If you have any Disney questions feel free to email me at freebird3573@yahoo.com, I'd be happy to help.
2007-01-22 02:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You presented your plan to your husband and he rejected it. Let him know you booked the trip for you and your son and give him the option of joining you. If he says no again, forget about it, go and have a great time with your little boy. If your husband did go, you'd probably be feeling torn between pleasing him and doing what you wanted to do with your son. Sounds like he has some jealousy issues.......remember, your son will always be your son, but he may not always be your husband. GO, girlfriend, and have a blast! You and your son will treasure the memories of the trip forever!!!
2007-01-22 06:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by planetary janet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is coming from my adventures raising 4 children on my own.
I'd make the plans to take my son too.
I can't help it, but OUR children are our life. Not just sometimes, but always when a single parent get's into a new marriage or even long term relationship, we wonder if we're suppose to let the "new man" in our lives make all the decisions or if their word, is almighy".
I'd of made the reservations too. The hubby says he doesn't want to go. IF your the one who has complained in the past over things needed at the home, one can see his point. IF hubby is a stay at home dad why you go work and he's complaining about things needed in the home......make a compromise. Give him the blender or fix the kitchen sink for him, before you take off! LOL
I'm sorry, but my kids are my world! They come first. Kids can't be replaced, but hubby's can.
Hope you and your son have a GREAT time in DisneyLand.
2007-01-22 02:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that you booked the trip. Agree to a budget afterward to save money for the home after you get back from your vacation and see if that changes his mind. If he still chooses not to go, then you guys just have a fantastic time!
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Have a great time!
2007-01-23 07:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never have this opportunity to spend time with your son as a child again. I would still involve your husband into agreeing with your decision, but I understand how important this trip is to you. I took both of my sons when they were 4 and 6 and they still have fond memories of it. Now I have a 2 year old son with my new husband and I am looking forward to doing it again with him. But please dont hide this from your husband.. he needs to be involved and to know how important it is for you and your son. I dont think you are being greedy at all.. it is for your son and is a wonderful thing. Have fun!!
2007-01-22 02:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby is obviously jealous of the relationship you have with your son and feels the money should be spent vicariously on him by buying things for the house. Tell him you booked the trip and that your son and you are both looking forward to it and would enjoy it all the more if you could go as a family. See what he says then.
2007-01-22 02:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a great idea. You have years to do up your house. But you son will only be able to appreciate the Magic of Disney land for a little longer before he becomes self aware.
I feel your husband is being a little selfish. He wont enjoy it so why should YOU and YOU SON go.
You son will only be young once let him have good memories of his younger years.
You make sure you enjoy yourself to.
Good Luck with your husband.
2007-01-22 02:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would just put a damper on the vacation so go without him. Some people just don't see the importance of fun and relaxation. You will have great memories of this trip and if he chooses not to be apart of it, then it is his loss. Do this periodically with your son, don't make him lose out on vacations because your husband can't see the importance of them.
2007-01-22 02:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the man. Go on that trip. Disney World is an experience of a lifetime. When my parents took me, I was toooo elated. Your husband just doesn't respect the fact that you are doing this for your son. Tell him, but if he resents in some way, STILL GO!
2007-01-22 02:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by *+* Miss NATION*+* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong to want to take your son to Disney World, but it is wrong to plan a trip without your husband. You should ask him to join you as a family.
2007-01-22 02:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋