She could bearly cope with work (she's/was a teacher).
Found it hard to make friends of her own. When she was with me and my friends she projected her fears of finding it hard to make friends so much that my friends found her hard work.
Because I love her totally I pulled back from a lot of my friends to show her she was my BESTEST friend...we are engaged.
Found out she been binging and purging recently.
Now she says its all my fault....I mean all of the above? I feel awful!! What could I have done to her to be like this.
She's been having therapy for years for issues relating to her elderly mother and the none relationship she had with her father. I even attended many sessions with her just to hold her hand.
Now she rages at me that I NEED COUNSELLING!!??
Please help if any of this sounds familiar.
2007-01-22 01:56:36 · 6 answers · asked by SledgeHammer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can only do so much. Take a break go on holiday or something, if things don't improve sometimes you need to move on, YOU need a life too.
2007-01-22 02:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by Alicat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys shouldn't have broken up in the first place if you guys were just going to do the things you guys are doing right now. Yea you might be living far away from each other but if you guys trust each other enough you guys could have worked out a long distant relationship. If you really care for him and have feelings for I recommend you, you tell him. If just seems a little pointless what you guys are doing, you guys might as well be in each others lives if you and him plan on checking each others personal stuff. Really think about it. Good luck though!
2016-05-24 17:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Kathleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a break, your not trained to cope with this on your own,she must have had these issues before she met you,she is doing right by getting help but insisting you need counselling as well is just her why of wanting you to be the same. take a break for a while and see how you feel and what you want to do after it . GOOD LUCK it sounds like you need it
2007-01-22 02:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really feel for u. I was a crazy ***** too and had years of cognitive behaviour therapy but the only thing that made me better was ME! u need to stand up to her, stop pandering to every whim. it sounds like the only thing u need is a holiday away from her!
2007-01-22 02:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear you going through all this. It must be really hard on you. Please try and stick with it and work with her through councelling. You sound like you love her and this must be tearing you apart. I'm sure she doesnt mean it that its all your fault. Again she's just projecting her fears onto you. Good luck
2007-01-22 02:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-22 09:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Nick C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋