Im gonna try to make this as short as possible:) Well my husband and I have a rough past year...I would hear about him with other women, when he was still with me. He hit me and I finally decided to leave him, I was going to the bar, drinking him away. I filed for a divorce and put a protective order on him. Well I find out im pregnant. We get back together, a couple months of him treating me like crap, he finally leaves. He says this kids not his, he doesnt want to get a divorce, blah blah blah. Well I have excepted all this and am trying to move on and take care of our baby.He keeps calling me when hes with his g/f and without. Hes nice to me and tells me he loves me blah, blah, blah. He keeps bringing his g/f to my house, she waits in his truck.
Why is he bothering me? Why cant he leave me alone? He was the one, this time who wanted to end this. Now im just trying to deal with being pregnant and alone. Why does he keep harrassing me?
2007-01-22 01:46:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I had the protective order dropped b4 all this happened so he could be there for me and the birth of his child.
I dont answer door, my mom does. I dont let him in and I dont answer the phone anymore.
I am actually getting a backbone and standing up for myself.
I just wish he'd leave me alone.
2007-01-22 02:17:13 · update #1
u stood up to him, now he sees u differently, still loves u, the girlfriend comes because she is keeping an eye on him, feels threatened by u, knows he is still your husband and that anything could happen at this point. but don't make the mistake of taking him back, he can't change unless he goes through some form of therapy and acknowledges what he is.
2007-01-22 02:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't get upset when I say what I'm going to say, but he keeps bothering you because you took him back when he was treating you like dirt. You took him back when he was treating you like dirt and so he thinks he can do it again....and again.... and again. What I don't understand is if you really do want him to leave you alone, next time he shows up, enforce the protective order by calling the police. He doesn't leave you alone because you don't make him leave you alone. So I guess now you really do have to decide: is it over or not... If it really is, call the cops next time he shows up at your door and enforce the protective order. Save yourself. And if you can't do it for yourself, do it for the child you are carrying.
Good luck..... I wish you and your baby a good life.
2007-01-22 01:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a loser. Just put a restraining order on him if he keeps harrassing you, especially after you've civily asked him to leave you alone. Get a paternity test on your baby so that he can help support you as well. If need be, you may consider moving. You definitely don't want him crawling back and harming you or your child. Best of luck!
2007-01-22 01:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to exert his control over you. If he hits you, don't even consider ever going to see him again. You don't want him doing this to your kids. When the baby is born, seek sole custody. If he hits you again, take pictures of the bruises. Move in with your parents, or move out of town, and talk to a lawyer about getting a restraining order. This guy is no good for you, you and your baby deserve better.
2007-01-22 01:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels that he OWNS you, as if you are a possession, not a person. And he will continue to act this way. Get out now, he won't change and every time you get together just re-enforces this behavior. Make the break and get on with your life.
2007-01-22 01:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by GRUMPY1LUVS2EAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he cant get over you completly. if your preganat and he says is not his then might as well leave him, everytime he goes to your house dnt let him in or move somewhere else were he cant find u and ur soon to be born baby. if he says is not his he'll let you go but if he still loves u he will take responsibility of that baby. GOOD LUCk = )!
2007-01-22 01:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by fifi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If satin keeps bothering you, consider reading the work of Saint Cotton.
2016-05-24 17:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keeping you on a string. You are his backup in case the new woman leaves him. He has control issues and is playing games. This is abuse. Get a restraining order on him
2007-01-22 01:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by luvtheMarines! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good for you for getting a back bone....He is no good as a husband and probably will be a worse father...You would do yourself and your baby a big favor by getting rid of him...get a divorce and file for child support,and maybe even spousel support,then he will be running from you then...And make him pay child support or go stay in jail....
2007-01-22 03:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let him. Follow through with the restraining order for you child's sake.
2007-01-22 01:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by drammy22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋