How much should you put up with in a marriage?

Answer 1

If you find that your marriage is ruining your life, and its changing you as a person then I would say enough is enough. If your marriage can be saved with help from a professional, then I would seek help..... So...it all depends on how much the relationship is changing your life. If you find you are unhappy more than you are happy in everyday life...that's a sign, something has to change....

Answer 2

well I've never been married, so i can't speak from experience. But marriages are ideally "for better or worse" which means that you have to take the good with the bad. Although I personally believe that abuse is a NO GO and you should leave if you are being abused. Also adultery I the think would be very hard / impossible to get over. BUT if you decided to forgive your partner for having adultery once, and then it happened again, I would leave. That shows that he / she isnt willing to change and never will change. but of course it is all up to you.

Answer 3

I'm really anti-marriage. But if you do it, it should be mutual respect. If the other person is abusive, get out. Most people know what they're getting into before they even decide to marry but do it anyway. It's something about the big white dress I guess. But life after the wedding day is more about work (that most guys don't want to be involved in).

Answer 4

You should make your boundaries and then stick with them ("I will put up with this much; but no more."). But....it would be wise if you made VERY wide boundaries--otherwise you would leave because of the wrong type of music, or because the lid was left off the toothpaste, or the food was burned, or something crazy like that.

Love is a choice--you can choose to love anyone. But...it is your choice and you have to choose to do it--no one can make you!

Answer 5

Marriage isn't something that you "should put up with" marriage is suppose to be a partnership between 2 people who really love each other... talk to your partner, if theres something thats going on that you're not happy with... don't let it fester to the point you blow up

Answer 6

Examples would be nice, what are you dealing with? Never put up with any kind of abuse, towards you or your children.

If you are dealing with substance abuse, try to get him help. Make sure he knows that you love him and are willing to stand by his side if he gets treatment.

Cheating is something I would never put up with, but some people think differently. So, I guess it depends on the couple.

Answer 7

As much as you can put up with and more... You vowed to love honor and cherish your spouse through sickness and in health and good times and bad til death do you part.... The main reasons you should ever only divorce or seperate are in cases of adultery or if they are sexually abusing you and your kids or are abusive to you or the kids or in cases of abandonment.

Answer 8

Depends on how much you love them.

No matter how much I loved them, I wouldn't put up with a mate who:
1. Hits or is physically cruel to me or my children.
2. Degrading with their words or actions.
3. Incapable of contributing to the household (either by working or doing chores).
4. Is unfaithful (sleeps around).
5. Doesn't treat themselves with respect (either doing drugs, alcohol or other forms of neglect).

It's all up to you.

Answer 9

As much as you want to. If things are bad, when you are done putting up with it you will know.

Answer 10

Depends on what you're putting up with. If it's little, stupid things, (like leaving the toilet seat up) then let the little things go. If he's HITTING you, or something like that, then put up with none of it.