what is the best way to beat alcohol binge drinking?

Question

My partner is not alcohol dependent, but when he starts, he cant stop. He can then be abusive, passive aggressive or violent at times. He will put himself in terrible danger whilst he is on the quest to drink himself to death. I do not matter in this time, nor does anybody else. I have ended the relationship but would like to lead him in the right direction of recovery. This patter happen precisley once per month for whatever reason, the rest of the month is to make up for this and say it will not happen again. Is this a disease or a thing he can control or just bad behaviour? which way do you see it??

Answer 1

You cannot make them stop. If that's what you're thinking get it out of your head because it's the wrong approach to take. Many of us would like to believe that you can change another person, but the cold hard truth is, you can't. Only that person can change themselves.

1. He has to want (and I mean above anything else) to stop.
2. He has to have the support (to the point of intervention) of his friends and family.
3. He has to stay away from the temptation of binge drinking even if it means isolation from his "friends" who binge drink.
4. He has to commit himself to stopping completely. ie...stop drinking period. One drink is fine for a normal person, but if you can't stop after just 1, then you're no longer normal, you're a binge drinker.

Steps 2-4 are important enough, but number 1 is paramount. Unless they want to stop more than anything, it's pointless to do anything other than show them what it's doing to them and everyone around them and hope they can find the strength to admit there's a problem and take the necessary actions to deal with it.

Answer 2

I had three paragraphs of answer typed when I re read your question and spotted the line......
"I have ended the relationship but....."

I was a serious drunk.
Getting the "heave ho" goes along with that.

Don't know how old guy is .......
Has he ever skipped the monthly binge?

Something might happen that will knock some sense into him.

I have been to a few rehabs and thousands of AA meetings but I hesitate to attach label "alcoholic" to this guy.

But his behavior during monthly binge is probably indication that he can't handle booze and that he might not live long enough to become a genuine drinking malt liquor in a rainy alley drunk.

Answer 3

From what you describe this is definitely a disease. I would suggest alcoholics anonymous but many people are going to resist going Therefore denying their problem. do your best to get him to go . If he resists try setting up an appointment with his medical doctor and see if the medical doctor can make him understand he needs help And treatment.

I suggest he takes a complete vitamin B complex three times a day with food. This helps to decrease the desire to drink. This is not the cure, but it's a great help.

I'm glad you have ended this relationship as you don't need to be abused Monthly. I'm sure you can find a much better person who will respect you as much as you have shown respect for yourself by walking away from a bad situation.

Best wishes
Billie77

Best wishes

Answer 4

if he CAN control it, then its not a problem

he just needs a good REASON to stop doing that

also, if he is endangering himself and other people its not ok

maybe set limits and stick to them, some agreements about how much, 2 per day, 5 on friday, none for a year

whatever , just so that its clear what and when

if he CAN'T stop, then AA or a drug rehab place I think

Answer 5

I consider myself a binge drinker. I don't have to drink everyday and can go a while without drinking,but when I start I get shitfaced.Luckily I haven't had anything bad happen yet,I'm usually more reserved but when I drink things come out.I'm afraid he's going to have to have something happen to him that will make him stop his pattern.

Answer 6

He needs professional help and you need to RUN...