My boss has scheduled a 'retreat' in the same town where we live and work. It is 20 min from my house but she wants us to stay in the hotel where we meet. I want to go home, the meetings end at 6pm and then I want to leave, not stay there and have drinks + dinner with them or sleep over. What can I say? HELP!! This boss made someone get a refund on a concert ticket last year for this in-town retreat, so the excuse needs to be very good.
2007-01-22 01:23:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Your boss shouldn't have to force anyone to attend. Once the work day is done, she has no power over you. Tell them you have to go take care of your friend's dog or something like that. If it were me, I would just leave after dinner. "Thanks for dinner guys but I've got to get home." Also most companies have someone to contact if you feel like your boss is being too "overbearing" in a situation. It is usually confidential. If you feel like you're being forced into something, you should try this approach. You should also find out if other people feel the same way you do. If it really is an inconvenience for more than one person, you can use this to your advantage.
2007-01-22 01:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Land Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an expert at this sort of thing. For 30 years I've been doing this very thing. Good at it as I am, I still have occasionally bitten the bullet and decided that I'd better attend.
The worst boss I had was good for this technique. Come up with an emergency about noon and gain her sympathy. Don't leave then. Pretend to get a couple more calls about it getting worse. Don't leave then. At some point, she will suggest you leave or you will simply straightforwardly apologize and say, "I've got to leave. I'll call you in a couple of hours to get an update."
A good excuse is your hot water tank suddenly leaking. It gets worse etc.
Never use Kids are Sick -- after all, aren't you supposed to have a watertight child care plan that includes them being sick?
2007-01-22 01:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by hawkthree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to finesse' this situation carefully. Are the hotel costs at your own expense? If so, then a simple statement that your finances don't permit this expense at this time.
But if they are paying, I think to conserve your position in her eyes. At least register, get your room, have the dinner with the gang. Excuse early at the end of dinner, and go home. Even if she does find out what business is it of hers where you sleep?
Just be sure to be back in time for the early morning meeting. Don't also run late getting back. This will just look too bad.
That's my advise.
2007-01-22 01:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are so against going to a retreat with your coworkers, it sounds like you are not interested in the job or the people. You should consider finding a new job instead of just bailing out on the retreat. Parties, company get togethers, and retreats should be looked at as opportunities to grow at your company, and you obviously do not see it that way.
2007-01-22 01:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by Strategic Sourcing Expert 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it was a male boss I'd say use the "female problems" line. But really, if you want to advace your career you should do the entire retreat.
2007-01-22 01:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by absynthian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Diarrhea, who is gonna argue with that?
2007-01-22 01:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by KayGeeTX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is sick!
2007-01-22 01:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Yann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋